I'll apologize in advance for a stream of consciousness mess of a story. I'm mad and hurt and its just me and the dog at 9 pm Tuesday night, the day before my wife leaves for two weeks.
Backstory: She's a technical professional that works away from home--4500+ miles away from home--for two weeks and then comes home and is home for 10 days. She has worked this shift for 18 years and we've been married for 5 of those years and together for 9. I'm a freelance writer and together we are equal in income into the household. So...no beta male stuff.
The elephant: She drinks. Until about two years ago, it was just a "good time Charlie" kind of drinking, but over the last three years it has become drink until blotto drinking. Our arguments over the last five years have always centered on her drinking. She's a mean drunk...fault finding, sarcastic, blame shifting. When she's called on drinking...she drinks more just to show that "you can't control me."
The deal: After a binge, a dissociative episode--she didn't know where she was, was falling down, conjuring up all her old demons...
the next morning, I said it had to end...she promised only two drinks a night.
So, she comes home, adheres to the two drink limit but then slides...The last slide was really bad and why I'm writing to TAM.
We had 10 days of harmony...4 nights of tender intimate sex and generally a good "off hitch."
Having to end this now. Invite coments from non AA committed people as this has not worked. previouslyu.
Backstory: She's a technical professional that works away from home--4500+ miles away from home--for two weeks and then comes home and is home for 10 days. She has worked this shift for 18 years and we've been married for 5 of those years and together for 9. I'm a freelance writer and together we are equal in income into the household. So...no beta male stuff.
The elephant: She drinks. Until about two years ago, it was just a "good time Charlie" kind of drinking, but over the last three years it has become drink until blotto drinking. Our arguments over the last five years have always centered on her drinking. She's a mean drunk...fault finding, sarcastic, blame shifting. When she's called on drinking...she drinks more just to show that "you can't control me."
The deal: After a binge, a dissociative episode--she didn't know where she was, was falling down, conjuring up all her old demons...
the next morning, I said it had to end...she promised only two drinks a night.
So, she comes home, adheres to the two drink limit but then slides...The last slide was really bad and why I'm writing to TAM.
We had 10 days of harmony...4 nights of tender intimate sex and generally a good "off hitch."
Having to end this now. Invite coments from non AA committed people as this has not worked. previouslyu.
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