Hi everyone. I'm in need of some advice. I'll start on the little things that led to this post first.
My mother-in-law is a single mom of 4, my husband being the oldest. His parents divorced when we were in high school and of course it had a negative effect on the entire family's lives. At the time of divorce, she was a stay-at-home mom. She is half Japanese and knows English as her second language, however she still went to pursue her nursing certificate to help provide for her family.
We have been married for 7 months now and every day I feel more and more like I'm the third wheel when around my husband and his mother. She works as a nurse 3 days a week for 12 hours straight and now she is going to school again to get her bachelor's degree. Because of this and because of her difficulty with the English language, she always asks for help from my husband with her homework, tests, etc. She is currently in the middle of a move, so on top of him helping her with all of those things he's also helping her cancel her internet and phone and getting her a storage unit, etc. On top of this, he has a full-time job AND not to mention a WIFE. I also work full-time and we hardly get to spend any time together. I don't know if I'm being selfish, but I'm getting tired of him saying yes to everything his mother asks even when he knows he doesn't have the time.
So I guess I need advice as to what I should tell my husband regarding this situation. I don't like it at all. I feel like she is his wife and I am just a third wheel. He will do anything she asks in a heartbeat, but put off things I have been asking him to do for weeks. Help!
(And also side story, she invited us to go to New York with her and his sister last month. I thought that meant some of the trip would be paid for us, but we ended up buying our own tickets, room, and tickets to broadway shows. She only paid for dinner a couple of times. And my husband has no problem at all paying for any of this... What do I do?)
PS: Sorry it's a lot of info. Any input at all would be greatly appreciated!
My mother-in-law is a single mom of 4, my husband being the oldest. His parents divorced when we were in high school and of course it had a negative effect on the entire family's lives. At the time of divorce, she was a stay-at-home mom. She is half Japanese and knows English as her second language, however she still went to pursue her nursing certificate to help provide for her family.
We have been married for 7 months now and every day I feel more and more like I'm the third wheel when around my husband and his mother. She works as a nurse 3 days a week for 12 hours straight and now she is going to school again to get her bachelor's degree. Because of this and because of her difficulty with the English language, she always asks for help from my husband with her homework, tests, etc. She is currently in the middle of a move, so on top of him helping her with all of those things he's also helping her cancel her internet and phone and getting her a storage unit, etc. On top of this, he has a full-time job AND not to mention a WIFE. I also work full-time and we hardly get to spend any time together. I don't know if I'm being selfish, but I'm getting tired of him saying yes to everything his mother asks even when he knows he doesn't have the time.
So I guess I need advice as to what I should tell my husband regarding this situation. I don't like it at all. I feel like she is his wife and I am just a third wheel. He will do anything she asks in a heartbeat, but put off things I have been asking him to do for weeks. Help!
(And also side story, she invited us to go to New York with her and his sister last month. I thought that meant some of the trip would be paid for us, but we ended up buying our own tickets, room, and tickets to broadway shows. She only paid for dinner a couple of times. And my husband has no problem at all paying for any of this... What do I do?)
PS: Sorry it's a lot of info. Any input at all would be greatly appreciated!
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