Long time since I've been on. I have a question about how difficult it may be to modify my decree.
I'm approaching 3 yrs since my divorce and I've always had a few things I would like to change on my decree. My decree is not exactly set to my state's(Texas) Standard and one of the things I foolishly agreed on back then was the length of time my kids visit their mom during the summer (long distance). Instead of 42 days (standard), they see her for 60 days with a week for me to visit in the middle. So it's 30 days with their mom, then 7 days I fly up to visit and back for another 30 days with her. Since she lives in Minnesota, the travel expenses I incur traveling to see the kids has weighed on me. And after 3 years, there's nothing else in Minnesota I would like to see (except for my kids of course).
I would like to change it to the standard 42 days in the summer with their mom.
Since I have the summers off like my kids(educator), I would love for them to travel with me and experience other parts of our country and even world. But I can't. The kids leave right after my school contract is up and they return when I'm already back to school preparing for the new school year. A coworker suggested having the kids live with mom and I get them in the summers. Ha! Never in a million years! So, I know I have a better scenario spending more time with my kids and I fear this request sounds too damn selfish. It's just unfortunate that I have little vacation time with my kids and would like to change it so it's more significant and meaningful.
I can try discussing this with my EX, but she's very stubborn about the kids visitation. And she feels this is the only area that she has the upper hand. Sad, I know. But I figure it's still worth a shot.
Anyways, I worry I may not have a chance getting it modified, because I've heard that the courts want to see a "substantial change of circumstances".
I'm approaching 3 yrs since my divorce and I've always had a few things I would like to change on my decree. My decree is not exactly set to my state's(Texas) Standard and one of the things I foolishly agreed on back then was the length of time my kids visit their mom during the summer (long distance). Instead of 42 days (standard), they see her for 60 days with a week for me to visit in the middle. So it's 30 days with their mom, then 7 days I fly up to visit and back for another 30 days with her. Since she lives in Minnesota, the travel expenses I incur traveling to see the kids has weighed on me. And after 3 years, there's nothing else in Minnesota I would like to see (except for my kids of course).
I would like to change it to the standard 42 days in the summer with their mom.
Since I have the summers off like my kids(educator), I would love for them to travel with me and experience other parts of our country and even world. But I can't. The kids leave right after my school contract is up and they return when I'm already back to school preparing for the new school year. A coworker suggested having the kids live with mom and I get them in the summers. Ha! Never in a million years! So, I know I have a better scenario spending more time with my kids and I fear this request sounds too damn selfish. It's just unfortunate that I have little vacation time with my kids and would like to change it so it's more significant and meaningful.
I can try discussing this with my EX, but she's very stubborn about the kids visitation. And she feels this is the only area that she has the upper hand. Sad, I know. But I figure it's still worth a shot.
Anyways, I worry I may not have a chance getting it modified, because I've heard that the courts want to see a "substantial change of circumstances".
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