Basically me and my girlfriend have different takes on life....
More in terms of career ambitions and longer terms aspirations. Its causing me and her a lot of stress.
Let me illustrate how I mean:
For example, she studies a degree that is a very difficult area to get into, unless your famous already, wealthy or incredibly talented.
Her area of expertise is very sort of, your either A or B. If not, then your not going to make ends meet. Many people in the said industry supplement their income by holding down some menial part time position to make money.
Additionally, as for her morale, she claims she is not that talented in the area, and although she can do particular things within her field, she feels that its a 'dead-end' thing. That she may as well resign to a minimum wage job, because 'she is good at that'.
She has no ambitions as such anymore, and she does not want to get a job in her area.
As far as I'm concerned, I'm happy if she is, but I just don't want her to make a wrong decision. Whilst she may enjoy working behind a bar, or waiting on tables now, in 20-30years time she will probably not feel the same. Everybody wants a steady income stream, and a pathway they can call their career, not just a "job".
As for me, I study in an area that is still rather competitive, but the industry is so dynamic that its still very much 'take your pick' in terms of the job-market. I occasionally have low morale when I see the quality of others work, however, I tend to go through this temporarily and it motivates me.
I tend to be motivated by things like poverty and not having a job that barely pays the bills (my mother had a hard time bringing us up single-handedly). Perhaps this is because I have a lack of worldly experience. I have had part-time jobs and such, but my girlfriend has had to pay bills and lives to survive.
So there is an underlying difference in our life experiences. But I get the sense that my girlfriend feels uncomfortable with my outlook on life, motivations and jobs etc. Its causing a rift. She thinks i'm a 'job-snob'.
My girlfriend is very much like: 'When we leave uni its gonna be hard, we are going to have to hold down three jobs to survive and make ends meet to afford a flat...[this and that this and that]'.
Whereas me: 'I;m going to work hard in my degree to secure a good job that will [hopefully] pay enough for us all to live comfortably'.
I admit, she is more conscious of the cost of things, and has more outgoings than me. But I'm just very idealistically driven.
My point is, she is very de-motivated, and is quite happy to resign herself to a life of working min wage. Whilst she claims she is happy doing so, I really don't believe it.
She had an idea of becoming a teacher, but has since abandoned that idea. She tells me that the reason she went to uni was to escape nasty/spiteful parents.
Im lost. I'm feeling a conflict of emotions and beliefs. What to do?
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