Man I'm scared to ask about this. My boyfriend and I have been dating for two and a half years. I care very deeply about him, really ADORE him for so many reasons-his looks, his kindness, his quirkiness…he's my best friend and truly one of the best people I've ever known. I treasure all of our memories from high school. My friends always talk about how adorable we are, and how they really respect us for going long distance while he went off to university (he's a year older), and how they can't wait 'til we're back together.
The thing is, as the months of an LDR go by I've been finding myself doing what I think is "falling out of love" with him. Like, maybe this is an awful thing to care about… but he hasn't been able to engage me intellectually at all for the past months, whenever I try to talk to him about serious or upsetting things in my life he gets really unresponsive, sends some emojis, and tries to change the subject. I'm sure he's doing his best, he always does, and its always little things like these. But I worry that as time passes I'm growing into someone who can't love him like I did.
It sounds really stupid, but because I care so tremendously for him I don't feel like I can tell him about these doubts I'm having-he is really terrible at talking through the emotional stuff and bringing it up might spell out the swift end of our relationship. He loves me and I use that word with the full weight of its intended meaning. I don't have it in me to hurt him, but I'm scared that I'll wind up going to his university just to continue a relationship that I don't find fulfilling.
I'm scared that I'm being immature, scared I'm being heartless, scared I could hurt someone who has really been nothing but good to me. What do I do? Can I fall back in love for him?
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