hello everyone,
I wanted to get peoples views on my wife dishonesty about something very important to me, i am a religious young man brought up in a different way from almost all my friends and wifes friends.
Before my wife and i married we talked about passed relationships and i told her i dated 3 women and never slept with any of them because i do not believe in premarital sex,when i met my wife we where just friends and she new about my beliefs, she didnt belive at first seing that it was easy for me to pick up women and am not the shy type, well what a suprise when she told me she was also saving her self for marriage, but i was looking for more than just her being a virgin i needed to know her heart, after dating for 2 years i new i wanted to marry her because was different from the other women i dated,kind,loving,caring,understanding and to top it off she was a virgin.
well fast forward we have been married 5 years, with a 4 year old son, last week we went to her home town and i was chatting to her friends who had too many to drink, i found out that my wife had a threesome with the guy who she claimed was nothing but a good friend through out our courtship, she also had a one night stand with another guy who was also at the party. at home i comfronted her about everything and she admitted that she lied because she loved me and she didnt want to be judged by her past. how could she lie to me about something so important to me, why didnt she let me make up my own decision to stay or not? i just need advice on why she did this to me, am not perfect but i have never done anything with anybody sexual not because i couldnt, but because i choose not to, how do i know she doesnt compare me with her past lovers? i dont want to compete with the past. its not fair, she duped me into marrying her.
I wanted to get peoples views on my wife dishonesty about something very important to me, i am a religious young man brought up in a different way from almost all my friends and wifes friends.
Before my wife and i married we talked about passed relationships and i told her i dated 3 women and never slept with any of them because i do not believe in premarital sex,when i met my wife we where just friends and she new about my beliefs, she didnt belive at first seing that it was easy for me to pick up women and am not the shy type, well what a suprise when she told me she was also saving her self for marriage, but i was looking for more than just her being a virgin i needed to know her heart, after dating for 2 years i new i wanted to marry her because was different from the other women i dated,kind,loving,caring,understanding and to top it off she was a virgin.
well fast forward we have been married 5 years, with a 4 year old son, last week we went to her home town and i was chatting to her friends who had too many to drink, i found out that my wife had a threesome with the guy who she claimed was nothing but a good friend through out our courtship, she also had a one night stand with another guy who was also at the party. at home i comfronted her about everything and she admitted that she lied because she loved me and she didnt want to be judged by her past. how could she lie to me about something so important to me, why didnt she let me make up my own decision to stay or not? i just need advice on why she did this to me, am not perfect but i have never done anything with anybody sexual not because i couldnt, but because i choose not to, how do i know she doesnt compare me with her past lovers? i dont want to compete with the past. its not fair, she duped me into marrying her.
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