Hello. My husband and I have been married for almost 3 years and we have been together for 5 years. I have known him since I was 13 and I am now 29. We just welcomed our 2nd child in November of last year and our oldest just celebrated her 2nd birthday. My husband and my mom does not get along. They were really cool but I got pregnant before we were married so my mom kirked out on him. (Keep in mind I was 26 college graduate when I got pregnant)
My mother blamed him wrongfully for it happening and she began treating him really mean. She told him that she doesn't and will never like him and to never hug her again not even at church. We have had to live with her twice not only for our benefit but hers as well. Well they didn't and still don't get along. We have had numerous counseling sessions and meditations between us but things haven't changed. My husband constantly complains to me about my mom. Everything she does irritates him. Some things are petty and some are warranted but I have gotten to the point where I'm tired of it and tired of hearing about it. It's stressful when you have your mother and your spouse at odds, especially when you're close to your parent. (I'm the only girl and my mom had been single parent since I was 2 and I'm the baby).
I have expressed to my husband that his complaints are affecting me. One night after a big argument between us that starting from me fixing my mom food and not him, he gets a text after midnight that said good night from a number saved as My Therapist. I try to wake him to ask who it was but he wouldn't get up so I call the number and get a female's voicemail. Apparently my husband meets some woman off instagram and has vented to her about the situation with my mom because it effects me so much when he complains to me. He was very apologetic and I know he didn't physically cheat nor does he want to he says he just can't hold it in and he doesn't want to talk to anyone close to us to be in our business. He said he deleted the contact and told her he couldn't chat with her anymore. Since then I've been paranoid so I went through his phone and saw her number in his contacts saved with no name. I'm hurt and upset but I can't confront him because I would have to admit sneaking int o his phone. Should I be concerned or should it be ok because he needs to vent?
My mother blamed him wrongfully for it happening and she began treating him really mean. She told him that she doesn't and will never like him and to never hug her again not even at church. We have had to live with her twice not only for our benefit but hers as well. Well they didn't and still don't get along. We have had numerous counseling sessions and meditations between us but things haven't changed. My husband constantly complains to me about my mom. Everything she does irritates him. Some things are petty and some are warranted but I have gotten to the point where I'm tired of it and tired of hearing about it. It's stressful when you have your mother and your spouse at odds, especially when you're close to your parent. (I'm the only girl and my mom had been single parent since I was 2 and I'm the baby).
I have expressed to my husband that his complaints are affecting me. One night after a big argument between us that starting from me fixing my mom food and not him, he gets a text after midnight that said good night from a number saved as My Therapist. I try to wake him to ask who it was but he wouldn't get up so I call the number and get a female's voicemail. Apparently my husband meets some woman off instagram and has vented to her about the situation with my mom because it effects me so much when he complains to me. He was very apologetic and I know he didn't physically cheat nor does he want to he says he just can't hold it in and he doesn't want to talk to anyone close to us to be in our business. He said he deleted the contact and told her he couldn't chat with her anymore. Since then I've been paranoid so I went through his phone and saw her number in his contacts saved with no name. I'm hurt and upset but I can't confront him because I would have to admit sneaking int o his phone. Should I be concerned or should it be ok because he needs to vent?
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