I'm sorry for the long story!
We only went out for 4-5 months, our relationship kinda staggered towards the end, and just stopped and started kind of. Thing is she, was on her last year of University, and I was on my second-last year, so she was due to leave and find a job soon.
Before she left for 3 months for the Summer, to also look for a job, we had some unresolved trust issues, bad ones. Me mainly with her. We weren't able to talk during the Summer except via Facebook message, which I found a bit suspicious in itself because I she could have used a landline or a phone box at least once, but her mobile contract was faulty, so she wasn't able to.
Anyway, we had a lot of fb-message-arguments, a lot. They got very heated, and we went from blocking to unblocking each other, and trying to solve things. In the end when I gave us one last chance, we lasted a bit longer but we ended up arguing again, like it became normal. Baring in my end we hadn't spoken to each other on the phone for about a month. This time it was for the last time, because she blocked me, instead of the other way round. Which upset me to say the least. It's been almost 2 months now, 4 months since i've actually seen her, 3 months since we've spoken to each other properly on the phone. My best friend, comforted me through the breakup, and said he has a similar girlfriend of 3 years he recently broke up with. I said how manipulative she was to me and he agreed, and told me he hates people like that. Anyway towards the end of the summer he suddenly stopped checking up on me, messaging me. When I met up with him a month later, he asked me if i'd be upset if my ex was seeing anyone, and I admitted, that I probably would be. He looked down, pretty guilty-looking, and said he's been seeing her. I took it on the chin, and just said I was glad it was him, a mutual friend, and not some horrible person. But then later on, it kinda sank in, I felt really really sad over the next few days, and had to block him. I was really confused, and felt like I was back to square one with getting over her. Is he a rebound to her? Is she over me now? I didn't get it— As I say, me, my ex, and my ex's new boyfriend (my ex-friend), and a few other people were all part of a friend group before I started going out with her. She fancied me a lot, and didn't fancy my friend, who liked her. She found out he liked her, and brushed it off as awkward and told me about it and laughed saying that he likes her. We all thought it was awkward, because she clearly didn't like him.
Throughout dating with her over the 4-5 months, she was very clingy, and getting very very serious (too serious probably). But we also both hung out with our friend a lot. If she really liked him then surely she would have made that clear, and had gone for him instead of me. But she didn't. She had no interest in him. And rightly so because he is a lot different from the rest of us, my ex was very conservative, sensitive, kind-hearted, my friend or her new boyfriend, has loads of tattoos (she hates lots of tattoos), he likes head banging and listening to metal music, he's really scruffy, he doesn't really take care of himself, and is obsessed with American Football, and quite inconsiderate, and narrow-minded, and drinks loads of beer. He's an atheist and my ex believes in god. I'm not saying there's anything wrong with this, it's just that, he's different, a lot different from my ex. I know them both very well, and I know they aren't exactly compatible. The only thing I can think that makes them compatible is that they are both quiet and kind people. But in different ways. I can't understand how my ex could find him attractive, it doesn't feel logical. She expressed in the past that she thought he was a bit 'weird', my ex's best friend (also part of our old friendship group) fell out with him a lot last year because he did or said something stupid.
About a month ago, before she started going out with my friend , she finally unblocked me, though I didn't make a fuss, I was just sad. She poked me (on Facebook), tried to add me, messaged me through the week, saying 'Hello', or 'Hey' or 'Hi' near enough everyday for 5 days, and I just ignored her. And finally she said 'Gorgeous profile picture and beautiful cover photo, all I was gonna say' and then a few minutes later said 'omg not even a reply'. I then messaged her, and said 'Fine, Reply Happy'… then she blocked me again. So I blocked her after she blocked me, in case she unblocked me again. Turns out she did unblock me again, because I found out when I unblocked her when my friend told me she was seeing him now. A week later when she must have seen my name, and found out I unblocked her….. she blocked me again. I know it's crazy. I miss her, and I KNOW I SHOULDN'T. I just can't get her out of my head, I haven't seen her in 4 months- the length of our relationship. She was my first ever girlfriend and I became dependant on her. Because I'm 21 and have never had that kinda of intimacy before, and doubt it'll be soon that i get it again, because I was very lucky with her. I just think that if when she returned after the 3 months and we go back together and met up, we could have fixed things IN PERSON, but i'm sad we never got that chance. The last time I saw her, she was crying and we kissed goodbye for 3 months. I told her it would be fine..
I just want someone else to see my situation.. tell me what you think?
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