Thought it might be helpful to start a thread with some red flags to look out for while dating post D. A few to start below:
-Overly effusive/complimentary right off the bat. Are they being sincere, or are you a little needy for approval? Let's face it - it feels good! Too good sometimes.
-On the first few dates, they give you exceedingly personal information about themselves. Like, skeletons in the closet type info. This is a campaign to rapidly accelerate and create a false sense of intimacy. Be wary.
-Their life is full of fractured, dysfunctional, and frankly undesirable relationships. Oh, and drama too. No matter what stories they tell you, remember that the common denominator is them.
-Bring children on dates and/or introduce you to their children before you are in a committed relationship.
-Flaky. What they say, and what they actually do don't seem to match up.
-Still live with their ex and/or talk about their ex often. Seems to ruminate on "what could have been." Not able to live in the present moment.
-You catch them in small, seemingly meaningless white lies. When called upon it, they either give an extremely vague or overly complicated explanation.
-They try to lower your inhibitions on a date by buying/bringing you unrequested drinks.
-Overly effusive/complimentary right off the bat. Are they being sincere, or are you a little needy for approval? Let's face it - it feels good! Too good sometimes.
-On the first few dates, they give you exceedingly personal information about themselves. Like, skeletons in the closet type info. This is a campaign to rapidly accelerate and create a false sense of intimacy. Be wary.
-Their life is full of fractured, dysfunctional, and frankly undesirable relationships. Oh, and drama too. No matter what stories they tell you, remember that the common denominator is them.
-Bring children on dates and/or introduce you to their children before you are in a committed relationship.
-Flaky. What they say, and what they actually do don't seem to match up.
-Still live with their ex and/or talk about their ex often. Seems to ruminate on "what could have been." Not able to live in the present moment.
-You catch them in small, seemingly meaningless white lies. When called upon it, they either give an extremely vague or overly complicated explanation.
-They try to lower your inhibitions on a date by buying/bringing you unrequested drinks.
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