To the point, married for over 20 years - wife made contact with an old boyfriend from 20 years prior on Facebook just days after she created her account and kept up communication for over 3 years, all contact was initiated by my wife. One communication thread was on our anniversary, which to me shows little respect for me and our relationship.
In addition, after some discussion about the past, I found out she did not tell me the truth about her past and previous sexual adventures. She had previously talked about the same boyfriend and all the pictures she had of him in discussions with another friend from her past..always referred to that time with him as the "good ole days" - I now find out that her old pictures of what she said were "friends" before, now I know were old boyfriends or just sex partners...we had looked at those pictures many times together, and this information was never disclosed, now I'm feeling a little deceived and question what is the truth. She said she has never cheated on me, but how can I believe anything she says since the past has been a lie, or at least the truth not fully disclosed...that's what she told me, she didn't lie to me, just didn't tell me everything. I tried to discuss my feelings with her, but this is one time she didn't want to talk....she said it's the past and didn't want to discuss it...if it's the past, why was she chatting with an old boyfriend and even posted a picture of a past boyfriend/sex partner on her Facebook page...which she took down after I knew the truth...also she stopped chatting with her old boyfriend and removed him on FB. I feel the relationship we had before has been damaged, but we are still together. Is this normal to chat with an old boyfriend and lie about the past then get mad and not want to discuss it with someone you've been with for over 20 years? What else is she not telling me?
I'm sure with the ease of social networking this is a problem for many, never thought this would be an issue for us. Thank you for your thoughts.
In addition, after some discussion about the past, I found out she did not tell me the truth about her past and previous sexual adventures. She had previously talked about the same boyfriend and all the pictures she had of him in discussions with another friend from her past..always referred to that time with him as the "good ole days" - I now find out that her old pictures of what she said were "friends" before, now I know were old boyfriends or just sex partners...we had looked at those pictures many times together, and this information was never disclosed, now I'm feeling a little deceived and question what is the truth. She said she has never cheated on me, but how can I believe anything she says since the past has been a lie, or at least the truth not fully disclosed...that's what she told me, she didn't lie to me, just didn't tell me everything. I tried to discuss my feelings with her, but this is one time she didn't want to talk....she said it's the past and didn't want to discuss it...if it's the past, why was she chatting with an old boyfriend and even posted a picture of a past boyfriend/sex partner on her Facebook page...which she took down after I knew the truth...also she stopped chatting with her old boyfriend and removed him on FB. I feel the relationship we had before has been damaged, but we are still together. Is this normal to chat with an old boyfriend and lie about the past then get mad and not want to discuss it with someone you've been with for over 20 years? What else is she not telling me?
I'm sure with the ease of social networking this is a problem for many, never thought this would be an issue for us. Thank you for your thoughts.
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