Hi everyone,
I'm having some difficulty coping with what people have to say about me. I have always been a person who is very sensitive, and takes everything quite personally.. So basically I have been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years, of course we have had our rough patches but this past year we moved halfway across the country together, and it has been the best year yet! (I moved for school, and he decided to come as well). We are evidentially 2 very different people; I am quite and keep to myself, while he is outgoing and fearless.
Anyways, getting to the point here. Back home my friends and him never got along. My friends were stuck up girls, who I admit, were never the right people for me. Although they were part of the reason why we started dating in the first place, they grew to hate him, and I always received comments that "I could do so much better" and "What am I doing with a guy like that". This really really offends me because I take it to heart and start over thinking everything. I have never had anyone understand me as well as my boyfriend does. (I am a very very complicated person to understand). He literally does everything for me, and yes he drives me bonkers sometimes but we connect so well. Ultimately, I am really happy with how our relationship is, minus the criticism from others.
Just recently one of my new friends has been asking to meet him. I tend to keep our relationship private in fear that they will disapprove of him like my previous friends. Just as I had feared, my friend saw him pick me up, and told another person how shocked she was that I am dating someone like that, and that I could do better. I am still very offended by this.. Yes he dresses in baggy clothes, and likes to play his music loud. His style is very different than mine, and he likes to rap. Which I admit, is different than what most people would expect. But I feel its shallow to base your assumptions just by how he looks :(
I can't help but let these comments get to me, because I get them all the time. If nobody approves of him is it a sign that he is not meant to be with me? Although none of these people actually know what our relationship is like.. Can anybody give me a few pointers or relate? Feeling really down!
I'm having some difficulty coping with what people have to say about me. I have always been a person who is very sensitive, and takes everything quite personally.. So basically I have been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years, of course we have had our rough patches but this past year we moved halfway across the country together, and it has been the best year yet! (I moved for school, and he decided to come as well). We are evidentially 2 very different people; I am quite and keep to myself, while he is outgoing and fearless.
Anyways, getting to the point here. Back home my friends and him never got along. My friends were stuck up girls, who I admit, were never the right people for me. Although they were part of the reason why we started dating in the first place, they grew to hate him, and I always received comments that "I could do so much better" and "What am I doing with a guy like that". This really really offends me because I take it to heart and start over thinking everything. I have never had anyone understand me as well as my boyfriend does. (I am a very very complicated person to understand). He literally does everything for me, and yes he drives me bonkers sometimes but we connect so well. Ultimately, I am really happy with how our relationship is, minus the criticism from others.
Just recently one of my new friends has been asking to meet him. I tend to keep our relationship private in fear that they will disapprove of him like my previous friends. Just as I had feared, my friend saw him pick me up, and told another person how shocked she was that I am dating someone like that, and that I could do better. I am still very offended by this.. Yes he dresses in baggy clothes, and likes to play his music loud. His style is very different than mine, and he likes to rap. Which I admit, is different than what most people would expect. But I feel its shallow to base your assumptions just by how he looks :(
I can't help but let these comments get to me, because I get them all the time. If nobody approves of him is it a sign that he is not meant to be with me? Although none of these people actually know what our relationship is like.. Can anybody give me a few pointers or relate? Feeling really down!
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