I have boxes of hundreds and hundreds of family photos to go through and divvy up between me and my stbxw. It is something I am dreading, and I will make a point to do it on a day when I don't have to work the following day, as it will be obvious I was bawling my eyes out.
My son asked me the other day to watch his 1 year video - a video I made of his first year, with songs like "Into the Mystic", "Born at the right time", "In my life"...songs that are tearjerkers on their own merit, but in that context, oh boy. He wept quietly (he's 9), but my little girl, not even alive at the time (she's 6) cried hysterically. Seeing her family as it once was...she felt the pain in a big way. I lost my **** and cried my eyes out.
It guts me to know I won't be able to watch those videos or look at those old family photos without feeling pain and sorrow. Yet another deep cut that infidelity inflicts on those it touches. Once beautiful memories, forever tainted...instead of bringing back those good old days, brings anger, pain and sorrow.
My son said he doesn't want to see his video again because it's too painful. That breaks my heart.
It's so sad, that for me, anyway, all the good memories, the good times, the loving times, have been erased - and replaced with anger and pain. I don't want to remember the good times, because to me, they were all lies. They never really happened.
Even looking at my kids baby pictures - it brings pain...and that is just plain awful.
For those who's marriages were ended because of their WS's betrayal - can you look at those videos/pictures? Do you avoid them? What do you feel when you see/watch them?
So very sad.
My son asked me the other day to watch his 1 year video - a video I made of his first year, with songs like "Into the Mystic", "Born at the right time", "In my life"...songs that are tearjerkers on their own merit, but in that context, oh boy. He wept quietly (he's 9), but my little girl, not even alive at the time (she's 6) cried hysterically. Seeing her family as it once was...she felt the pain in a big way. I lost my **** and cried my eyes out.
It guts me to know I won't be able to watch those videos or look at those old family photos without feeling pain and sorrow. Yet another deep cut that infidelity inflicts on those it touches. Once beautiful memories, forever tainted...instead of bringing back those good old days, brings anger, pain and sorrow.
My son said he doesn't want to see his video again because it's too painful. That breaks my heart.
It's so sad, that for me, anyway, all the good memories, the good times, the loving times, have been erased - and replaced with anger and pain. I don't want to remember the good times, because to me, they were all lies. They never really happened.
Even looking at my kids baby pictures - it brings pain...and that is just plain awful.
For those who's marriages were ended because of their WS's betrayal - can you look at those videos/pictures? Do you avoid them? What do you feel when you see/watch them?
So very sad.
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