Hi,
So I started uni this September and in the run up, finally came to the conclusion (after many years of confusion) that I was either bi or gay. I've decided not to come out for the moment so as to get a good uni friend-base and go from there.
I sing in a choir and there's one guy who sings in it that I fancied a bit when I first joined however very quickly established that he was 'straight'. Over the first 3-4 weeks I had no reason to question this. Then, we had a social evening involving copious amounts of booze etc. and we all ended up in a club together where it was decided that we'd play the ice cube game. This is where you have to pass an ice cube between as many people as possible in your group, but only using your mouths.
Obviously (even while completely pissed), I started off with girls so as to fit in, but after a while I started doing it with a gay guy in the group who was more than happy to. This then led on to me trying it with the guy I fancied and he was equally happy to do so (which surprised me slightly, being that I viewed him as completely straight). We did this a few times and then I remember one of the times being a bit more than just passing the ice cube (I seem to recall some tongue action but it was all a bit of a haze!). Then when we got back, he texted me his number out of the blue, 'just in case I ever needed it'.
We never really did chat by text, but then on another social in the union we were chatting and sharing rounds. This was where I started to realise that there was maybe something to be had with him. We then all as a group headed into the club (not many drinks this time) and he seemed very touchy-feely, to the stage where it was very obvious. I pretty much repeated anything he did but he was very clearly leading it.
We then left together alone to walk back to halls (20 min walk) and he kept trying to stroke my leg and hand etc. and it was clear where it was going. Anyway, to cut a long story short, the walk was a lot longer than 20 mins and involved passionately making out in various locations and giving/receiving a BJ once back.
However, just when he was about to leave he explained that he'd been trying to figure out whether he was gay/bi/straight for a long time and he felt that experience told him he was straight as it felt 'odd' afterwards (I felt similarly as well!). As a result, we left it at that and haven't mentioned it since (was about 1.5 months ago now) except a brief thank you and 'sorry for wasting your time' text.
What would you say I should do? I really like the guy (struggling to stop thinking about him) and would love to go out for a drink on our own to get to know each other a bit, but he has clearly stated (albeit just after the BJ) that he's straight and he's never that keen to start text conversations...
Suggestions? Thanks in advance...
(sorry for the length!)
So I started uni this September and in the run up, finally came to the conclusion (after many years of confusion) that I was either bi or gay. I've decided not to come out for the moment so as to get a good uni friend-base and go from there.
I sing in a choir and there's one guy who sings in it that I fancied a bit when I first joined however very quickly established that he was 'straight'. Over the first 3-4 weeks I had no reason to question this. Then, we had a social evening involving copious amounts of booze etc. and we all ended up in a club together where it was decided that we'd play the ice cube game. This is where you have to pass an ice cube between as many people as possible in your group, but only using your mouths.
Obviously (even while completely pissed), I started off with girls so as to fit in, but after a while I started doing it with a gay guy in the group who was more than happy to. This then led on to me trying it with the guy I fancied and he was equally happy to do so (which surprised me slightly, being that I viewed him as completely straight). We did this a few times and then I remember one of the times being a bit more than just passing the ice cube (I seem to recall some tongue action but it was all a bit of a haze!). Then when we got back, he texted me his number out of the blue, 'just in case I ever needed it'.
We never really did chat by text, but then on another social in the union we were chatting and sharing rounds. This was where I started to realise that there was maybe something to be had with him. We then all as a group headed into the club (not many drinks this time) and he seemed very touchy-feely, to the stage where it was very obvious. I pretty much repeated anything he did but he was very clearly leading it.
We then left together alone to walk back to halls (20 min walk) and he kept trying to stroke my leg and hand etc. and it was clear where it was going. Anyway, to cut a long story short, the walk was a lot longer than 20 mins and involved passionately making out in various locations and giving/receiving a BJ once back.
However, just when he was about to leave he explained that he'd been trying to figure out whether he was gay/bi/straight for a long time and he felt that experience told him he was straight as it felt 'odd' afterwards (I felt similarly as well!). As a result, we left it at that and haven't mentioned it since (was about 1.5 months ago now) except a brief thank you and 'sorry for wasting your time' text.
What would you say I should do? I really like the guy (struggling to stop thinking about him) and would love to go out for a drink on our own to get to know each other a bit, but he has clearly stated (albeit just after the BJ) that he's straight and he's never that keen to start text conversations...
Suggestions? Thanks in advance...
(sorry for the length!)
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