I am 25 and my girlfriend is 22. We have been together a year and I've found it a struggle, though she hasn't found it so difficult.
Long story short, she has a LOT of issues regarding getting close to people, we don't make out, we barely kiss, she feels anxious if I cuddle her, we've not managed full sex yet, but I'm with her, because I love her.
We live an hour apart but it hasn't proved difficult at all, though she never talks abotu her fears, worries or emotions to me. It is a strange relationship yet I want nothing else or no one else.
Anyway, recently she started acting strangely (just after Christmas). We had a lovely Christmas together. Whenever she acts strange, it's usually because shes upset, or worried or something, though never usually wants me to know.
She spoke to a friend of mine today and told them that a few days ago she decided she wanted to go to dance lessons, but then realised she couldn't because I live ''too far away''. It then gave her a bad gut feeling which lasted until today when she spoke to my friend about it. She specifically said that shes NOT having doubts, and that she can only describe it as a feeling that somethings wrong. Anyway, my friend told her that she should talk to me, and that she cant make conclusions up like that without speaking to me first.
So we're seeing each other on Thursday and shes going to talk to me about it. The thing is, I'll gladly go to dance lessons with her, I'd love to infact and the distance is nothing to me. It's always me driving the distance to see her anyway! But I dont know what to think? She obviously got upset that she couldnt just easily go to the dance with me, and maybe thought it would be easier if I lived next door so there was no pressure involved, but surely thats no reason to get so worked up about it?
Im really apprehensive about seeing her on Thursday as I feel that I'm going to have to convince her that distance is not a problem (it really isnt!) if Im going to save our relationship, even though she said shes not having doubts. Im worried, I do not want to lose her as I love her. :( Maybe Im just over thinking it all.
I feel I need to somehow make her realise the distance is nothing to me, its not a pressure at all, it really isn't.
Long story short, she has a LOT of issues regarding getting close to people, we don't make out, we barely kiss, she feels anxious if I cuddle her, we've not managed full sex yet, but I'm with her, because I love her.
We live an hour apart but it hasn't proved difficult at all, though she never talks abotu her fears, worries or emotions to me. It is a strange relationship yet I want nothing else or no one else.
Anyway, recently she started acting strangely (just after Christmas). We had a lovely Christmas together. Whenever she acts strange, it's usually because shes upset, or worried or something, though never usually wants me to know.
She spoke to a friend of mine today and told them that a few days ago she decided she wanted to go to dance lessons, but then realised she couldn't because I live ''too far away''. It then gave her a bad gut feeling which lasted until today when she spoke to my friend about it. She specifically said that shes NOT having doubts, and that she can only describe it as a feeling that somethings wrong. Anyway, my friend told her that she should talk to me, and that she cant make conclusions up like that without speaking to me first.
So we're seeing each other on Thursday and shes going to talk to me about it. The thing is, I'll gladly go to dance lessons with her, I'd love to infact and the distance is nothing to me. It's always me driving the distance to see her anyway! But I dont know what to think? She obviously got upset that she couldnt just easily go to the dance with me, and maybe thought it would be easier if I lived next door so there was no pressure involved, but surely thats no reason to get so worked up about it?
Im really apprehensive about seeing her on Thursday as I feel that I'm going to have to convince her that distance is not a problem (it really isnt!) if Im going to save our relationship, even though she said shes not having doubts. Im worried, I do not want to lose her as I love her. :( Maybe Im just over thinking it all.
I feel I need to somehow make her realise the distance is nothing to me, its not a pressure at all, it really isn't.
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