Hello,
I am hoping to gain your perspective on the experiences of others that may be similar to mine.
After dated a girl for 4 years, I married in 2001 at the age of 27. We had a child together in 2005 and everything seemed really good. Shortly after the birth of our son, she had decided to have two EAs, one with a good friend of mine and the other with her boss. I found out about this in 2009 after seeing explicit messages on her phone. We separated the same year and divorced in 2010.
While separated, I met a girl that was crazy about me and that I was attracted to. We hit it off instantly and decided to marry at the end of 2010. She was good with my son but noticed that she was becoming more intolerant to him. This became an issue as well as her dishonesty about her past. I opened about that my ex was the only women I had ever been with sexually. She was always reluctant to share her sexual past but ultimately told me she slept with "5 or 6" men. That number turned out to be closer to 40. These issues created huge trust issues in our relationships and we separated in June 2012. We have a daughter together. I also learned about her mental instability and bipolar disorder. She was extremely volatile and aggressive and threatened my son, my family and me. As difficult as my first divorce was, the second was very tough to deal with. I felt like I was being pummelled continuously. She would speak with anyone that would listen about how terrible a person I was. My second divorce should be finalized in 3 months.
At this point, I am interested in meeting new women but am concerned about how to explain my past experiences. I am curious as to how others dealt with this and if you were able to overcome it with new women.
Thanks,
DDDCanada
I am hoping to gain your perspective on the experiences of others that may be similar to mine.
After dated a girl for 4 years, I married in 2001 at the age of 27. We had a child together in 2005 and everything seemed really good. Shortly after the birth of our son, she had decided to have two EAs, one with a good friend of mine and the other with her boss. I found out about this in 2009 after seeing explicit messages on her phone. We separated the same year and divorced in 2010.
While separated, I met a girl that was crazy about me and that I was attracted to. We hit it off instantly and decided to marry at the end of 2010. She was good with my son but noticed that she was becoming more intolerant to him. This became an issue as well as her dishonesty about her past. I opened about that my ex was the only women I had ever been with sexually. She was always reluctant to share her sexual past but ultimately told me she slept with "5 or 6" men. That number turned out to be closer to 40. These issues created huge trust issues in our relationships and we separated in June 2012. We have a daughter together. I also learned about her mental instability and bipolar disorder. She was extremely volatile and aggressive and threatened my son, my family and me. As difficult as my first divorce was, the second was very tough to deal with. I felt like I was being pummelled continuously. She would speak with anyone that would listen about how terrible a person I was. My second divorce should be finalized in 3 months.
At this point, I am interested in meeting new women but am concerned about how to explain my past experiences. I am curious as to how others dealt with this and if you were able to overcome it with new women.
Thanks,
DDDCanada
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