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Me and my boyfriend have been together for over a year and a half now, of which ten months i spent on placement in africa. It was tough being long distance, but we did it. We had a rough patch adjusting when I came back, but we're starting to hit our stride again and we both love each other deeply.
Recently my bf has been mentioning travelling next year. I am also planning on taking a year out after I graduate next year to travel, but don't currently have any funds saved and am hoping on landing some summer internships.
After noticing my bf's becoming less talkativeabout future plans with me (as in the goofy 'when we do this, when we're old stuff'), we had a massive discussion where he revealed that ideally he'd like to spend 9 months travelling round south east asia starting next september, and already has quite a bit saved for it. He'd have finished a graduate internship and doesn't really feel like he has any other time without interrupting his career.
There is no way I can raise that kind of money to join him out there for longer than 1-2 months. He's also said it's unlikely he would come home at any point (completely understandable). He's said he also thinks doing long distance again would be too hard, as there wouldn't be there regular contact and skypes that were there in the previous stretch. However, he wants to stay together until he leaves.
I am currently still a little bit stuck on all of this. i knew he wanted to travel and dont' begrudge him the opportunity at all but didn't realise it would be so soon and would be at the loss of our relationship. I love this boy to death and would love to travel asia with him but i just don't have the funds (and won't in time, i'm still studying) to do so.
Does anyone have any experience of being in a LDR while the other is travelling? Did it work or not at all? I want to be with him but it's so hard to feel like i'm on a countdown timer agian, i don't know whether to end things sooner to spare feelings or later and just enjoy my tim with him
tl'dr boyfriend is travelling for nine months in september and doesn't think long distance will work but wants to stay together until he leaves. Am at a loss.
Me and my boyfriend have been together for over a year and a half now, of which ten months i spent on placement in africa. It was tough being long distance, but we did it. We had a rough patch adjusting when I came back, but we're starting to hit our stride again and we both love each other deeply.
Recently my bf has been mentioning travelling next year. I am also planning on taking a year out after I graduate next year to travel, but don't currently have any funds saved and am hoping on landing some summer internships.
After noticing my bf's becoming less talkativeabout future plans with me (as in the goofy 'when we do this, when we're old stuff'), we had a massive discussion where he revealed that ideally he'd like to spend 9 months travelling round south east asia starting next september, and already has quite a bit saved for it. He'd have finished a graduate internship and doesn't really feel like he has any other time without interrupting his career.
There is no way I can raise that kind of money to join him out there for longer than 1-2 months. He's also said it's unlikely he would come home at any point (completely understandable). He's said he also thinks doing long distance again would be too hard, as there wouldn't be there regular contact and skypes that were there in the previous stretch. However, he wants to stay together until he leaves.
I am currently still a little bit stuck on all of this. i knew he wanted to travel and dont' begrudge him the opportunity at all but didn't realise it would be so soon and would be at the loss of our relationship. I love this boy to death and would love to travel asia with him but i just don't have the funds (and won't in time, i'm still studying) to do so.
Does anyone have any experience of being in a LDR while the other is travelling? Did it work or not at all? I want to be with him but it's so hard to feel like i'm on a countdown timer agian, i don't know whether to end things sooner to spare feelings or later and just enjoy my tim with him
tl'dr boyfriend is travelling for nine months in september and doesn't think long distance will work but wants to stay together until he leaves. Am at a loss.
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