Hi, new here, wondering if anyone else is in my kind of situation. My husband and I have been together for 14 years, married for 12 this month. Back in may we moved into his mother's house, she was wanting to live in her camper in the back yard and us take over the payments, she made it very stressful for me cause I couldn't keep her house clean enough for her, she expected me to even take out her trash that she would bring in from her camper and wash her laundry, I felt like she had us move in so I could be her free maid and I refused to do it and she started talking bad about me to her friends and even to our 11 year old daughter (I have 3 kids, 2 from a previous marriage). I complained alot since I was hurt, stressed out and unhappy living there, I only agreed to live there because my husband wanted that house really bad and even though I knew what it was going to be like (didn't expect it to be as bad as it was) I wanted him to be happy. He knew I was n't doing too well there, even started seeing a councelor and was put on prozac. Anyway she had really got to me by some things she was saying and he acted like he didn't care, I asked him if he even wanted me there and he said he didn't know, that it seems like no matter what he does he can't make me happy and he put all the blame on me and he said he don't think he has any fault in it. Before we moved to his mothers we were living in another house that belonged to her that I think should be condemned, roach infested, floor falling through in the kitchen, pipes and electric all messed up, electric was a fire hazard and nearly had 2 fires. Anyway I started working on our marriage and going to counceling, I had quit complaining like he wanted and started taking care of things myself. We ended up moving back, he said he knew his mother wanted her house back for 2 months but by him keeping his mouth shut (he let his mom treat me and my kids however she wanted) that came out of this innocent and still gets the house (which really hurt that he could put his family through all the stress we went through just to get what he wanted). 2 weeks after we moved back and 3 months of trying to work on our marriage, which was one sided, he tells me it's not me it's him and that all he cares about is hunting and the kids. He left for the weekend hunting and me and the kids left 2 hrs away to stay with my brother. He was wanting me and the kids to stay in that crappy house and him go live with his mom and help me pay for bills. Every day I worried I might lose the kids for living there so I left. I can't drive (never learned) and I can't get a job since i'm tied down to taking care of my mother which i've been doing for 10 yrs now and he wants me to make it on my own so I can see what life is like for him. He was also going around telling people before we split up that he has a woman who wants him. I have very low self-esteem, got all my teeth pulled over a year ago and he never took me to get dentures. I'm working on losing weight. I feel like I can't get anyone else. Anyway, any advice?
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