So this thread is inspired by a recent thread called "my idiotic brother" which infuriated me.
Pretty much my whole family is like this and pretty much all Indian/Asian families are the same from my experience.
The rules of marriage for us Indians (my family is all Sikh, personally I am atheist)
1- It must be someone of the same caste
2- Someone of the same religion
It makes me so mad when i hear this because none of it makes any sense whatsoever. Why is their a caste system in the first place? I'm pretty sure that all religions speak of equality especially Sikhism and Hinduism so why the **** is their a caste system and why do they find it disgusting for people to marry out of this system. Then they have the nerve to talk about ethics and religion as if they're a good example.
My cousin has a bf who is Sikh like herself but "unfortunately" he is of a lower caste. When she told her dad that this was the person she wanted to marry he ****ing lost it, threatening to kill her and disown her for bringing "shame upon the family." I just think wow.. what a complete utter fool. What kind of a father does that? He's managed to completely disregard his own daughters feelings by thinking of how it would effect his reputation? Are you ****ing serious?
People in my culture are brainwashed to believe it is sin to do this and they will bring dishonor and shame to the family, as if respect within a family is of any value when compared to your daughter/sons happiness. It's just not good enough, absolutely pathetic, I am just so lost for words right now. Why do people just follow this ****? Why don't people think?
I have a cousin of the same age as me (19) whom I was chatting with a few months back. The marriage topic came up and she gave me a standard answer which was it had to be of the same religion and caste and I was like why? I demanded an answer for something so preposterous to which the reply was a simple "because that's whats expected of me." Who the **** cares about that? It's your life you should live by making your own decisions in life, otherwise whats the ****ing point? She's studying medicine now and I commend her for studying hard (the only good thing about our culture is that it promotes studying) but i also feel sorry for her.
I know that she is only studying medicine because her parents told her to do that and she will also end up marrying someone her parents approve of. It's all for the same bull**** cause and she will end up making few important decisions in her life.
I am just so angry with our culture that claims to be religious, ethically correct and yet comes out with this bull****. It's really upsetting/infuriating. If you are white/black and reading this you probably don't have this going on in your culture the way we have it in ours. It's really horrible i tell you that.
Why does this happen in our culture? I'd like to hear all your opinions and those of you who are also asian who experience this.. what do you think about it?
Pretty much my whole family is like this and pretty much all Indian/Asian families are the same from my experience.
The rules of marriage for us Indians (my family is all Sikh, personally I am atheist)
1- It must be someone of the same caste
2- Someone of the same religion
It makes me so mad when i hear this because none of it makes any sense whatsoever. Why is their a caste system in the first place? I'm pretty sure that all religions speak of equality especially Sikhism and Hinduism so why the **** is their a caste system and why do they find it disgusting for people to marry out of this system. Then they have the nerve to talk about ethics and religion as if they're a good example.
My cousin has a bf who is Sikh like herself but "unfortunately" he is of a lower caste. When she told her dad that this was the person she wanted to marry he ****ing lost it, threatening to kill her and disown her for bringing "shame upon the family." I just think wow.. what a complete utter fool. What kind of a father does that? He's managed to completely disregard his own daughters feelings by thinking of how it would effect his reputation? Are you ****ing serious?
People in my culture are brainwashed to believe it is sin to do this and they will bring dishonor and shame to the family, as if respect within a family is of any value when compared to your daughter/sons happiness. It's just not good enough, absolutely pathetic, I am just so lost for words right now. Why do people just follow this ****? Why don't people think?
I have a cousin of the same age as me (19) whom I was chatting with a few months back. The marriage topic came up and she gave me a standard answer which was it had to be of the same religion and caste and I was like why? I demanded an answer for something so preposterous to which the reply was a simple "because that's whats expected of me." Who the **** cares about that? It's your life you should live by making your own decisions in life, otherwise whats the ****ing point? She's studying medicine now and I commend her for studying hard (the only good thing about our culture is that it promotes studying) but i also feel sorry for her.
I know that she is only studying medicine because her parents told her to do that and she will also end up marrying someone her parents approve of. It's all for the same bull**** cause and she will end up making few important decisions in her life.
I am just so angry with our culture that claims to be religious, ethically correct and yet comes out with this bull****. It's really upsetting/infuriating. If you are white/black and reading this you probably don't have this going on in your culture the way we have it in ours. It's really horrible i tell you that.
Why does this happen in our culture? I'd like to hear all your opinions and those of you who are also asian who experience this.. what do you think about it?
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