I've been considering divorce for several months now. I've been married to my husband almost 16 years. We have 3 kids, 1 teenager and 2 young kids. I've been home with the 2 youngest for several years now. I saw a divorce attorney and things look good for me. We have my husbands truck note and our mortgage. That's it. I don't want the house. My car is paid for and still under warranty. My husband makes good money so with his child support and me going back to work the kids and I will be fine.
Problems: he treats me like I'm the maid. I'm supposed to do EVERYTHING with no help from him. EVERYTHING includes washing his moldy dishes because he can't be bothered to bring them home from work before they mold. He never picks up after himself and constantly takes digs at me if his drink isn't made or his clothes aren't washed.
Another problem is our finances. He makes good money but I'm a saver and he's a spender. If we have something we actually NEED for the house I put it off because I'll find a $500 washing machine that meets my needs fine but he'd rather me buy one that costs $2000.
He has absolutely no patience with our kids and always getting onto them constantly. Rarely ever praises them and it's gotten to the point that my oldest doesn't even like being around him anymore.
he's never here, always working and I have to do absolutely everything by myself. The only difference between me and a single mother is that I don't have to work but I do have to cook, clean and put up with a man that's always negative.
While he acts like this all the time he's shocked that I won't have sex with him because he thinks that would fix all our problems.
It won't and I deserve to be treated better and I really don't think he can change.
Before I break up my family how do I know that there's no fixing this?
Edited to add: I have lost all respect for him and I feel like he doesn't respect me either.
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Problems: he treats me like I'm the maid. I'm supposed to do EVERYTHING with no help from him. EVERYTHING includes washing his moldy dishes because he can't be bothered to bring them home from work before they mold. He never picks up after himself and constantly takes digs at me if his drink isn't made or his clothes aren't washed.
Another problem is our finances. He makes good money but I'm a saver and he's a spender. If we have something we actually NEED for the house I put it off because I'll find a $500 washing machine that meets my needs fine but he'd rather me buy one that costs $2000.
He has absolutely no patience with our kids and always getting onto them constantly. Rarely ever praises them and it's gotten to the point that my oldest doesn't even like being around him anymore.
he's never here, always working and I have to do absolutely everything by myself. The only difference between me and a single mother is that I don't have to work but I do have to cook, clean and put up with a man that's always negative.
While he acts like this all the time he's shocked that I won't have sex with him because he thinks that would fix all our problems.
It won't and I deserve to be treated better and I really don't think he can change.
Before I break up my family how do I know that there's no fixing this?
Edited to add: I have lost all respect for him and I feel like he doesn't respect me either.
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