Thought I'd shift gears a bit and try a more proactive thread. I made a lifestyle change by improving my diet, weight training and doing cardio regularly. I'm down about 50 lbs from my starting weight and I'm going for more. I'm looking a good bit better and my confidence is going up. While the new me has made my marriage only better from an intimacy standpoint as well as in other areas (we exercise more together, more date nights, etc), I have also noticed that my eye does wander more than it used to when I was heavier and not so active. I have never been good at interpreting signals from the opposite sex, so I have no idea if more women are checking me out now than before. But I do find that it's a good bit easier to get a smile from a woman now and to engage in nice conversations with women when I'm traveling for work.
Neither my wife nor I have ever cheated on each other nor ever prior to us meeting. And I have no intention to seek out women with the intention to cheat. But at the same time, I do feel some of those temptations and when there is a pretty woman who is talking to me, I cannot help but sometimes wonder if I could get into another woman's pants because of my improved body and confidence. As much as I'd love to say that I'd never ever ever cheat, you never know 100% if you may be struck with that moment of weakness due to a series of events that weakens your willpower.
So my question to the group: For those of you who may have or are improving their health and looks thru diet and exercise, how do you effectively cope with the inevitable situations where you get your ego stroked because people who wouldn't normally give you a second glance start to notice you more and/or you find out that you can engage in small talk more easily with people whenever you are out traveling.
To help myself so far, I keep these thoughts in my head:
Neither my wife nor I have ever cheated on each other nor ever prior to us meeting. And I have no intention to seek out women with the intention to cheat. But at the same time, I do feel some of those temptations and when there is a pretty woman who is talking to me, I cannot help but sometimes wonder if I could get into another woman's pants because of my improved body and confidence. As much as I'd love to say that I'd never ever ever cheat, you never know 100% if you may be struck with that moment of weakness due to a series of events that weakens your willpower.
So my question to the group: For those of you who may have or are improving their health and looks thru diet and exercise, how do you effectively cope with the inevitable situations where you get your ego stroked because people who wouldn't normally give you a second glance start to notice you more and/or you find out that you can engage in small talk more easily with people whenever you are out traveling.
To help myself so far, I keep these thoughts in my head:
- I never want to hurt my wife or children by my actions.
- I don't want to lose my family by cheating.
- I don't want to get an STD and infect my wife.
- I don't want to end up with a surprise child with someone else
- I don't want to have a BH coming after me if I was caught in an affair with a married woman.
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