Could really do with some advice

Hi all, First of all I want to say that for the last month or so this site has been "god send" to me , even just reading other people`s posts and knowing I am not the only person going through this living hell. I am now however In a situation that i feel the need to post and hopefully pick up some advice as i am completely lost. Since a week before xmas my wife and I have separated twice, getting back together for the third time less than a week ago. the first day or so was fine, planning a holiday etc and generally getting on well. Now i know we both had faults and i was well aware that our relationship would have to be rebuilt, however out of nowhere on day 3 she tells me that she is struggling to have any feelings at all and does not love me. Prior to this i did have the "i love you , but i am not in love with you" line but to hear that there is no love at all was a killer blow to me. So we have had arguments to the point yesterday where i completely shut off. I woke yesterday morning thinking this cannot continue and i need to protect myself, so rather than doing a 180 i just shut away all together, not speaking , or only speaking if i needed to , even then keeping to one word answers. I have to point out that we both run a business together which makes it even more complex and difficult. After my wife noticed this change in mood, no longer trying to be nice etc etc she suggested going to counselling saying she was desperate to sort something out. In her words it will either show there is something there to work on , or there is not and it will make the split easier, this i feel is her whole motive for it as i don`t think deep down in my heart that she wants to try and resolve the issues. My question really is this, do i try and get out of this shell i have created , try to be there and talking and chatting etc while we go to the counselling or do i just continue to show nothing, no emotion at all. I am really scared to show any emotion , to then hear in a few weeks time it is definitely over. I love my wife completely , she is my life and i am struggling to even think of us not being together, but i feel i have to protect myself somehow. I have been to the point of suicide when we separated the last time and i just cannot go through that again. Lone37

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