| ...a relationship? I'm a 21-year-old girl and, I know looks are generally subjective, but for all intents and purposes, I think we can all agree that some people are generally seen as better or worse looking than other people. I'd say I'm not particularly attractive looking, which really gets me down sometimes. I've never had a proper relationship, and I keep hoping and waiting for one but it never seems to come. I've had a chance to do FWB, but I didn't want it as I wasn't really attracted to him and I don't really like the idea of casual sex, especially as I'm still a virgin and really hoping to lose it to someone special. That special person hasn't ever come yet though and I worry whether he even will. And even if he does, what if it's not for another 5, 10 or more years? :( Is it worth waiting potentially that long? I get so sexually frustrated sometimes and very eager and curious to try sex, but the right person isn't materialising and I wonder, am I being dumb and naive for holding out for this? I think being an unattractive girl sucks way more than being an unattractive guy, as guys are more shallow about looks so are less likely to pick an unattractive looking romantic partner. Any guy just has to be funny and he will soon have a girl fall at his feet. I can understand how guys could easily go for unattractive girls just for casual sex though, since they don't have to have them on their arm like with a girlfriend, just hump em and dump em. And before someone says "personality counts" - really, what personality? All I've ever mostly seen is the most attractive looking girls getting boyfriends easily even though their personalities are bad (mean girl types). Honestly, I think I'm a very nice and interesting person but that obviously isn't enough to get into a relationship - guys either only want to be just my friend, more rarely just my **** buddy, or just reject me altogether. I'm getting so sick of it. And before someone says "having a good body counts" - I call bull****. I have a body of a Pussycat Doll but hey ho, I can't get a guy to date me seriously. I wear makeup too, which helps make me look a little better, but not enough to attract guys. It's only mostly women who compliment my looks (hair, face, body), not men. Because men are shallower and they'll only really pay those sort of compliments if they're actually interested in you. I've been considering if I'm still single at the age of 21.5 or 22, should I just drop the perfectionist idea of a relationship and go have lots of casual sex. The idea of it isn't very ideal compared to having sex in a proper relationship, but maybe it's at least better than nothing. It'd also guarantee I don't die a virgin at least haha. Thoughts? Advice? Anyone been in a similar situation? | |||
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