I went swimming with my girlfriend this weekend for an early morning swim.
We put our bag down at the side of the pool, jumped in the pool and swam a few lengths.
During this time, I looked toward our bag a few times because I was a little worried that someone would take it. It contained wallet, phone, car keys, etc.
Toward the end of the swim, my girlfriend was obviously angry about something.
She then accused me of looking several times at another woman, that the other woman also looked back at me, and that we "flirted" with each other at a distance. I think she mistook my looking at my bag for looking at someone else!
I was shocked because I had not "flirted" with anyone! Sure, I had "looked around". I noticed the big guy with the tattoo who was swimming, the grandmother with her grandchild, and so on, but flirting? oggling? excessive looking at a female? no!
My girlfriend would not accept my denial and insisted I was lying. She then spend the rest of the weekend very angry with me because I implied it was all in her imagination and if I only "admitted the truth" everything would be okay.
But... I don't want to be dishonest and admit to doing something I did not do; even if it might have a short term benefit. She wants me to say "okay, I looked, I flirted, and that was terrible of me". I don't feel that's right. Why should I admit to something I did not do!? Besides... I know her enough to know that if I took that approach she would bring that up again that I admitted to looking and probably use it against me in the future.
We have had this issue many times. I'm fed up of the accusations.
What I do not understand is.... why the hell is she not prepared to even consider that I might actually be telling the truth?! It's like a badge of honor to her that her intuition is right. She said that I make her feel like she is crazy when I lie about looking. But I am not lying! God... it makes me so mad.
We put our bag down at the side of the pool, jumped in the pool and swam a few lengths.
During this time, I looked toward our bag a few times because I was a little worried that someone would take it. It contained wallet, phone, car keys, etc.
Toward the end of the swim, my girlfriend was obviously angry about something.
She then accused me of looking several times at another woman, that the other woman also looked back at me, and that we "flirted" with each other at a distance. I think she mistook my looking at my bag for looking at someone else!
I was shocked because I had not "flirted" with anyone! Sure, I had "looked around". I noticed the big guy with the tattoo who was swimming, the grandmother with her grandchild, and so on, but flirting? oggling? excessive looking at a female? no!
My girlfriend would not accept my denial and insisted I was lying. She then spend the rest of the weekend very angry with me because I implied it was all in her imagination and if I only "admitted the truth" everything would be okay.
But... I don't want to be dishonest and admit to doing something I did not do; even if it might have a short term benefit. She wants me to say "okay, I looked, I flirted, and that was terrible of me". I don't feel that's right. Why should I admit to something I did not do!? Besides... I know her enough to know that if I took that approach she would bring that up again that I admitted to looking and probably use it against me in the future.
We have had this issue many times. I'm fed up of the accusations.
What I do not understand is.... why the hell is she not prepared to even consider that I might actually be telling the truth?! It's like a badge of honor to her that her intuition is right. She said that I make her feel like she is crazy when I lie about looking. But I am not lying! God... it makes me so mad.
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