I have been with my husband for 8 years and married for 5 of those years. We have never really had many issues except for the usual mother in law issues, boundaries issues and cleaning the house issues. Boy I was not expecting this.
My husband (let's call him Michael) has been drinking too much and pressures me to drink with them even though I am 26 weeks pregnant. Of course I don't drink but he gets angry and tries to pressure me into drinking along with him. I dislike this drinking habit because it makes him impatient, lazy and short.
My husband has also had an EA with a coworker a few months ago which I forgave him for. He was talking to her almost all the time, had sexts between them and they were very emotionally invested. I am not sure if it became a PA but he said no. He quit that job and is now a security guard. I have had reasons to believe that he is cheating on me both EA and PA wise and have PROOF of it. I just don't know whether I should confront him.
Two weeks ago my husband got home earlier than me because I had to stay at work late (I am a waitress) I texted my husband and asked him what he wanted for dinner because I could pick it up on my way home, no answer. I called 5 times and no answer. So I figure he's napping or playing a game or something and I didn't think much of it.
When I get home I notice that the door is locked so I check my bag and realize I forgot my keys at home inside the house. I ring the bell and he doesn't answer. I go in the backyard and that is locked too and no matter how many times I rung the bell, nobody answers. So I had to go stay at my mom's house and I called over 10 times and no answer.
The next morning I got back to the house at 9am and see a blonde girl leaving my house in a tube dress and getting into her red car. Before she left her and my husband were making out on my doorstep which I got on video from across the street. She left, I go inside 15 minutes later and my husband's in the shower. I asked what he was up to that he couldn't let me in and he said he crashed and didn't wake up.
Since then, I have been locked out a total of 6 times. I went through his phone a few times and see multiple texts from her (I'll call her Emily) and all of them are innapropiate and NSFW.
I don't confront him, I don't say that I know anything. I ask if he still wants to be with me and he says "I'm not sure" I ask if he loves me and he says "I'm not sure" I ask him if he even still wants our baby and he says "I'm not sure"
So I don't know what to do with all this. I don't want to go through with confronting him and goingg through a divorce process because I'm pregnant and do not want more stress.
I am very resentful that he has locked me out when he wants to get down and dirty with OW Emily. She knows he's married and on her facebook she is married too with 2 kids. She also drinks. I have caught them at a bar drinking alone because I followed them one night. So I know for a fact that my husband is cheating on me but I don't want the stress of confronting him and getting a divorce because I'm pregnant. I also don't want to do that when the baby is born because I will be recovering and very exhausted and busy with a new baby. What do I do?
1 more thing. I am taking maternity leave at 35 weeks and will probably end up quitting because my husband makes enough and I can be a stay at home mom which we both agreed to.
My husband (let's call him Michael) has been drinking too much and pressures me to drink with them even though I am 26 weeks pregnant. Of course I don't drink but he gets angry and tries to pressure me into drinking along with him. I dislike this drinking habit because it makes him impatient, lazy and short.
My husband has also had an EA with a coworker a few months ago which I forgave him for. He was talking to her almost all the time, had sexts between them and they were very emotionally invested. I am not sure if it became a PA but he said no. He quit that job and is now a security guard. I have had reasons to believe that he is cheating on me both EA and PA wise and have PROOF of it. I just don't know whether I should confront him.
Two weeks ago my husband got home earlier than me because I had to stay at work late (I am a waitress) I texted my husband and asked him what he wanted for dinner because I could pick it up on my way home, no answer. I called 5 times and no answer. So I figure he's napping or playing a game or something and I didn't think much of it.
When I get home I notice that the door is locked so I check my bag and realize I forgot my keys at home inside the house. I ring the bell and he doesn't answer. I go in the backyard and that is locked too and no matter how many times I rung the bell, nobody answers. So I had to go stay at my mom's house and I called over 10 times and no answer.
The next morning I got back to the house at 9am and see a blonde girl leaving my house in a tube dress and getting into her red car. Before she left her and my husband were making out on my doorstep which I got on video from across the street. She left, I go inside 15 minutes later and my husband's in the shower. I asked what he was up to that he couldn't let me in and he said he crashed and didn't wake up.
Since then, I have been locked out a total of 6 times. I went through his phone a few times and see multiple texts from her (I'll call her Emily) and all of them are innapropiate and NSFW.
I don't confront him, I don't say that I know anything. I ask if he still wants to be with me and he says "I'm not sure" I ask if he loves me and he says "I'm not sure" I ask him if he even still wants our baby and he says "I'm not sure"
So I don't know what to do with all this. I don't want to go through with confronting him and goingg through a divorce process because I'm pregnant and do not want more stress.
I am very resentful that he has locked me out when he wants to get down and dirty with OW Emily. She knows he's married and on her facebook she is married too with 2 kids. She also drinks. I have caught them at a bar drinking alone because I followed them one night. So I know for a fact that my husband is cheating on me but I don't want the stress of confronting him and getting a divorce because I'm pregnant. I also don't want to do that when the baby is born because I will be recovering and very exhausted and busy with a new baby. What do I do?
1 more thing. I am taking maternity leave at 35 weeks and will probably end up quitting because my husband makes enough and I can be a stay at home mom which we both agreed to.
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