Background, Crystal is my gf. She's going under at dentist Monday to have tooth pulled. She lives an hour away from me and dentist. She took a day to be with me when mine was pulled about a month ago. My divorce papers have a morality clause that keeps bf's and gf's from being at the house when I have kids past 10PM. I wanted to let gf stay at my place to recover since she's actually getting knocked out for procedure. This is what the text conversation with the ex looked like.
Me: "Can the kids stay with you Monday night? I need crystal to stay here overnight."
Her: "Why does crystal need to stay?"
Me: "She's having to go under so they can work on a tooth so she can't drive home Monday"
Her: "What time is her appointment?"
Her: " and are you taking her to doctor?"
Me: "I'm driving her to and from appointment. She's recovering at my apartment and i'll have to fill her prescriptions. I"m just asking you to take one of my nights. Why I need you to really shouldn't matter. Also please don't forget autism center info."
Her: "you are asking me for a favor and I shouldn't ask questions? Then my answer is no. I'll send that info tonight"
Me: "I just don't understand why it has to be twenty questions everytime. You shouldn't have to qualify if my reason for not having kids here because I have plans for something meets your standards for a valid reason which seems to be fairly objective depending on your mood."
Her: "It's simple....you are rude to me, then I don't have to do anything. Treat me decent if you're going to ask for a favor. I'm not going to do favors blindly without knowing why."
The autism thing is a separate subject concerning our youngest together. You see how it isn't automatically about her getting an extra night with the kids but rather about me getting a sleepover with my girlfriend (regardless of the fact she's recovering from dental surgery and it won't exactly be a fun night out or anything).
My morality clause is null and void on the occasion of engagement to a partner. my gf and I have discussed just putting the rings on so she can shove the morality clause up her butt and I don't have to ask anymore. I have no problem handling kids and my gf recovery at the same time but the clause prevents her from spending the night.
Basically every conversation with my ex has to be a long drawn out Q&A session about where, when, why and how before she'll make the ultimate judgment to take a night or weekend or whatever.
Me: "Can the kids stay with you Monday night? I need crystal to stay here overnight."
Her: "Why does crystal need to stay?"
Me: "She's having to go under so they can work on a tooth so she can't drive home Monday"
Her: "What time is her appointment?"
Her: " and are you taking her to doctor?"
Me: "I'm driving her to and from appointment. She's recovering at my apartment and i'll have to fill her prescriptions. I"m just asking you to take one of my nights. Why I need you to really shouldn't matter. Also please don't forget autism center info."
Her: "you are asking me for a favor and I shouldn't ask questions? Then my answer is no. I'll send that info tonight"
Me: "I just don't understand why it has to be twenty questions everytime. You shouldn't have to qualify if my reason for not having kids here because I have plans for something meets your standards for a valid reason which seems to be fairly objective depending on your mood."
Her: "It's simple....you are rude to me, then I don't have to do anything. Treat me decent if you're going to ask for a favor. I'm not going to do favors blindly without knowing why."
The autism thing is a separate subject concerning our youngest together. You see how it isn't automatically about her getting an extra night with the kids but rather about me getting a sleepover with my girlfriend (regardless of the fact she's recovering from dental surgery and it won't exactly be a fun night out or anything).
My morality clause is null and void on the occasion of engagement to a partner. my gf and I have discussed just putting the rings on so she can shove the morality clause up her butt and I don't have to ask anymore. I have no problem handling kids and my gf recovery at the same time but the clause prevents her from spending the night.
Basically every conversation with my ex has to be a long drawn out Q&A session about where, when, why and how before she'll make the ultimate judgment to take a night or weekend or whatever.
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