My husband and I are pretty recently married, but we have been together for like 7-8 years, and we're in our late twenties. It's not til recently he has some problem with drinking (worst times drink about 750ml of whiskey in 2 days) He does have high alcohol tolerance so don't get drunk easily. He said he needs it t help him sleep and cope with stress at work. Because he's a non-violent person, we tried to find ways to reduces it before declaring it a definite problem, but I do present it to him as a problem from time to time. About 3 weeks ago he was drinking with a friend at home, the person was a childhood friend, but they stayed up til 3am getting wasted, I was able to send the friend home. The friend was claiming that he attacked him which raised a big concern for me. I tried to put my husband to sleep, even though he was not violent towards me, he was saying weird stuff and kicking the furniture a few times. So I recorded a what I can and showed it to him the next morning. He was shocked because he said he didn't remember anything, he apologized and promised not to drink for the most part. He did have a little bits of it here and there, but it was much better than before.
But then when his friend decided to drop by again once they made peace, they drank an entire bottle again. This was after I told them I do not want the same thing repeated. When I confronted my husband that his friend should go home, he said the friend was falling in hard times and he wanted to make him feel better. I decided that I was going to go to sleep but stays up til the friend leaves. But then in the middle of the night my husband decided to get into a car with him, which I was upset he didn't say anything, but figures he was just gonna spend some time at his house. So I texted my husband that 'Thanks for not telling me anything', and just hoped that he's come back at some point and went to sleep. Then like an hour later his friend called me saying that he's acting drunk again and maybe I should come and pick him up and txted me the address. At that point I was pretty angry and told him that he should let him stay over until he sobers up. That was that and I went to s leep. My husband finally got home like 5 hours later, and was pissed. He said he was kicked out and left to take the MTA by himself, and no one bothered to check upon him. I asked him why didn't he just call a cab because I know he has maybe less than 200 on him, he said he gave it or spent it all on his friend. I asked him to apologize to me too but he was too stubborn and insist on guilt tripping me. Which I know under normal circumstance as a wife I should be more concerned, but I was just too entrapped in my own emotions to have any good response. Right now I really don't want to waste my day while he's sleeping, so I'm going out to do errands til he comes to his senses. Then perhaps I should tell him I want to live with my parents for a bit til he can promise me not to repeat that. Am I being too harsh? Or perhaps I can deal with it some other way? Sorry for the long read!!!
But then when his friend decided to drop by again once they made peace, they drank an entire bottle again. This was after I told them I do not want the same thing repeated. When I confronted my husband that his friend should go home, he said the friend was falling in hard times and he wanted to make him feel better. I decided that I was going to go to sleep but stays up til the friend leaves. But then in the middle of the night my husband decided to get into a car with him, which I was upset he didn't say anything, but figures he was just gonna spend some time at his house. So I texted my husband that 'Thanks for not telling me anything', and just hoped that he's come back at some point and went to sleep. Then like an hour later his friend called me saying that he's acting drunk again and maybe I should come and pick him up and txted me the address. At that point I was pretty angry and told him that he should let him stay over until he sobers up. That was that and I went to s leep. My husband finally got home like 5 hours later, and was pissed. He said he was kicked out and left to take the MTA by himself, and no one bothered to check upon him. I asked him why didn't he just call a cab because I know he has maybe less than 200 on him, he said he gave it or spent it all on his friend. I asked him to apologize to me too but he was too stubborn and insist on guilt tripping me. Which I know under normal circumstance as a wife I should be more concerned, but I was just too entrapped in my own emotions to have any good response. Right now I really don't want to waste my day while he's sleeping, so I'm going out to do errands til he comes to his senses. Then perhaps I should tell him I want to live with my parents for a bit til he can promise me not to repeat that. Am I being too harsh? Or perhaps I can deal with it some other way? Sorry for the long read!!!
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