Hey :]
So almost four years ago I got together with a guy who was a year older than me and it was the first proper relationship for both of us. We dated for 14 months, but I was young and out of my depth and he was preoccupied and took me for granted. I broke up with him and it was very messy - I broke his heart in his words and he cut me out of his life.
Within five months, he had gone to uni and met another girl who he proceeded to date for a year and a half / two years. I dated people in this time, but never had any serious relationships. I've always missed him tonnes and regret how things ended etc.
Almost four months ago, after nearly three years of no contact at all, he added me back on Facebook and we began talking. His girlfriend had broken up with him about a month prior and he said he just wanted to chat to a friendly face and missed when we were together cos he was much happier then.
Last week when I wasn't feeling very well and just needed a week off uni, I visited him at his uni where I stayed for four nights after he suggested I come down and hang out. As soon as we saw each other, there was immediate chemistry again and it was so easy being together again. We ended up sleeping together (probably not the best idea ever) and he told me he still loved me and wanted to give us another chance now we're older and have a bit more life experience. I told him I loved him as a friend but I hadn't really considered anything more, but he said he still wanted to try and see how things go.
Basically, now we've seen each other again and everything has been put behind us, it would be very easy for me to go back there, especially since there wasn't a bad reason for us breaking up, it was just that we didn't know how to handle things properly. However, I'm very concerned that I'm just a rebound because it's easy for him when we have so much history. He still talks about his ex sometimes and he obviously still has feelings for her, but he says the relationship wasn't healthy and he's glad it's over and wouldn't want her back because of how she treated him. I mentioned my concerns and he was upset that I thought that and was very insistent that it had been more than just a few weeks for example and he was certain he knew what he wanted. I don't want to get into a massive mess because of all this so I need an outsider's perspective to kinda of clarify my thoughts with what information I could provide. Apologies for the length and thanks in advance to anyone who replie s :]
TL;DR - Broke up with ex, he cut me off and went on to have long term relationship, she treated him badly and broke up with him, he started talking to me again and now, after four months, he has said he still loves me and wants me back even though he still has lingering feelings for her and doesn't want her back. Am I his rebound?
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