My wife accuses me of being 'the most passive person she knows'. Lately it turned out that most decisions we made what I thought together after long consideration and discussion, she thinks I bullied her into the decision and she only agree to 'get me off her back'.
How do these things fit together? She often expects me to lead and have an opinion on things but is highly critical of the opinion if it doesn't fit into her world view.
I think I'm very laid back (which may be the cause for the 'passive' allegation) but I truly believed we made major decisions together.
Some of the decisions I apparently bullied her into are:
I honestly wouldn't decide these things on my own. we had long discussions about each one of these decisions, but now it turns out I was the passive aggressive bully.
Am I a bully or is she being mean?
How do these things fit together? She often expects me to lead and have an opinion on things but is highly critical of the opinion if it doesn't fit into her world view.
I think I'm very laid back (which may be the cause for the 'passive' allegation) but I truly believed we made major decisions together.
Some of the decisions I apparently bullied her into are:
- buying a new family car;
selling the house rather than renting it out when we had to move due to her getting a job offer 350km away.
Having the son skip a year due to his outstanding academic achievements
I honestly wouldn't decide these things on my own. we had long discussions about each one of these decisions, but now it turns out I was the passive aggressive bully.
Am I a bully or is she being mean?
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