I think a very useful topic would be to discuss turn offs, particularly those from an HD spouse. While everyone is eager to discuss things to help get an LD spouse turned on and revved up, it can be just as important to avoid things that are a turn off. This may also be an opportunity for those with negative comments about their spouse to offer some information that may prove helpful (if such a thing is possible).
If we all set aside issues that have to do with rejection, lack of desire, or someone being a prude, we have to acknowledge that is likely very difficult to do something to an HD spouse that actually turns them off. At the same time a LD spouse may have very little feedback for an HD partner to help improve issues in the bedroom.
So if you are a HD guy with a LD wife, you would likely be very interested in what things are an actual turn off from an HD wife's point of view. Vice versa an HD wife with a LD husband will likely be interested in what are the turns off HD men to help her know what to avoid in the bedroom.
In the spirit of trying to be constructive about this, I will start by offering one of my previous turn offs as an HD spouse. With all the girlfriends I had before getting married and including my wife, I was never able to enjoy receiving oral. I knew it was something I should enjoy, so I would try to enjoy the opportunity. Often while receiving oral I would find myself wondering why all other men enjoyed it so much, as it would feel almost overstimulating and pass the fine line of feeling good, to that sensation of being tickled in an irritating way. After being married for a while, I started turning down oral from my wife as I was just not that into it. Since she often wanted to avoid traditional PIV intercourse when she was not in the mood, instead she would often encourage me to just be fine with a HJ or oral. One day she was giving me oral, but I guess she was being very lazy about it as everything from her felt much more relaxed and soft as opposed to sucking and being aggressive about it. Well that day completely changed my opinion about receiving oral as her relaxed approached was a completely different and amazing experience for me. Now she knows that being aggressive and rough was a turn off and that she can give me oral by being more relaxed and soft about her style which she evens seems to enjoy a little more as she will often have to jump on top of me while watching me get so excited.
If we all set aside issues that have to do with rejection, lack of desire, or someone being a prude, we have to acknowledge that is likely very difficult to do something to an HD spouse that actually turns them off. At the same time a LD spouse may have very little feedback for an HD partner to help improve issues in the bedroom.
So if you are a HD guy with a LD wife, you would likely be very interested in what things are an actual turn off from an HD wife's point of view. Vice versa an HD wife with a LD husband will likely be interested in what are the turns off HD men to help her know what to avoid in the bedroom.
In the spirit of trying to be constructive about this, I will start by offering one of my previous turn offs as an HD spouse. With all the girlfriends I had before getting married and including my wife, I was never able to enjoy receiving oral. I knew it was something I should enjoy, so I would try to enjoy the opportunity. Often while receiving oral I would find myself wondering why all other men enjoyed it so much, as it would feel almost overstimulating and pass the fine line of feeling good, to that sensation of being tickled in an irritating way. After being married for a while, I started turning down oral from my wife as I was just not that into it. Since she often wanted to avoid traditional PIV intercourse when she was not in the mood, instead she would often encourage me to just be fine with a HJ or oral. One day she was giving me oral, but I guess she was being very lazy about it as everything from her felt much more relaxed and soft as opposed to sucking and being aggressive about it. Well that day completely changed my opinion about receiving oral as her relaxed approached was a completely different and amazing experience for me. Now she knows that being aggressive and rough was a turn off and that she can give me oral by being more relaxed and soft about her style which she evens seems to enjoy a little more as she will often have to jump on top of me while watching me get so excited.
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