Hi there,
I'm 23 but pretty inexperienced when it comes to relationships, I haven't really been in a proper relationship before.
I met this guy last year where I live and we got on great. We have a lot in common and we have similar personalities - we're both introverts and socially awkward, yet we have the same sense of humour etc. We only ever started out as friends, we would go cinema etc. However, after each outing he would refer to it as a date and I thought nothing of it and just let it go. Anyway, I pretty much knew from the start that he liked me more than a friend, and on so many occasions he would ask if I liked him more than a friend. I was always polite and put it off, saying that we should stay friends and not potentially ruin anything. But, after months and months, I kind of saw him in a new light. He isn't the type I'd usually go for, with regards to appearance, but his personality is everything I'd look for in a guy. I know looks aren't everything, but I'm just not physically attracted to him.
The awkward thing is we kind of ended up in a relationship, however it is a dysfunctional relationship. Neither of us are romantically inclined, and I'm not one to be lovey dovey. However, I have dated guys in the past, and there was one that I really liked and I just got a feeling every time I saw him, like I was so excited to see him. I just don't feel like that with my current 'boyfriend'.
I'm away at university and I'm going home at Christmas, and obviously I will see him. I asked people on here not long ago and they said I should put myself first and be honest, however with it being the festive season and his long term suffering from depression, I honestly don't know if I can tell him how I really feel.
I genuinely love him as a friend, and as an individual. I know it happens a lot whereby friends take things further and it's a disaster, and I truly believe this has happened here. I'm doing my second year at University abroad and I don't want to feel tied down. I don't mean that I want to be single because I want to see other guys, I'm genuinely not interested in a relationship right now, I like my freedom and I want to focus on my studies.
So, should I tell him at Christmas or drag it out even longer? :(
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