Married for five years upon discovering that my husband was cheating with a coworker for over 3 years. I'm the type who wants to know details and asked a LOT of questions about his side relationship. He answered my questions (truthfully or not....I don't know) and says that although there was no physical sexual interaction, that indeed "sexting" took place. Either way, I've decided to begin the forgiving process and want to move past this and forward with my marriage.
The problem is that nearly 3 months later, thoughts about the relationship continue to flood my mind and more questions arise. So, naturally I come to him with my questions and concerns. He's frustrated with me for continuing to bringing it up, but I don't mean harm. I can't hold it inside and try to suppress it, but it eats at me. I just feel like I need to talk about it sometimes and seek truth. He got upset once when the issue came up during a disagreement, so I respected that and a few weeks later brought it up in a calm manner when we were having a cool, relaxed evening. Again, I received backlash instead of support and reassurance. How do you suggest I deal?
The other problem is that I feel as though he has no clue about how this has impacted me, emotionally and mentally. Especially, when he is adamant that I did nothing wrong and that the side relationship was a result of his selfishness. He seems to want and expect me to be able to just forget what happened and get over it. Not that simple. How do I help him understand the severe pain and ultimate betrayal...sometimes anger that I feel?
Signed,
A broken-hearted, faithful wife
The problem is that nearly 3 months later, thoughts about the relationship continue to flood my mind and more questions arise. So, naturally I come to him with my questions and concerns. He's frustrated with me for continuing to bringing it up, but I don't mean harm. I can't hold it inside and try to suppress it, but it eats at me. I just feel like I need to talk about it sometimes and seek truth. He got upset once when the issue came up during a disagreement, so I respected that and a few weeks later brought it up in a calm manner when we were having a cool, relaxed evening. Again, I received backlash instead of support and reassurance. How do you suggest I deal?
The other problem is that I feel as though he has no clue about how this has impacted me, emotionally and mentally. Especially, when he is adamant that I did nothing wrong and that the side relationship was a result of his selfishness. He seems to want and expect me to be able to just forget what happened and get over it. Not that simple. How do I help him understand the severe pain and ultimate betrayal...sometimes anger that I feel?
Signed,
A broken-hearted, faithful wife
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