We have been married for 11 years and have not had sex in over 6 years. We "fool around" about every three months, but it is like I am back in high school when we do - if you know what I mean.
I do not believe in cheating, but I did about three weeks ago. The thing is...I didn't feel guilty about it at all.
I told my husband last week I wanted a divorce and that I cheated, thinking that would make it easier to leave. His response was.......it was his fault I cheated and he isn't mad. He would even consider an open marriage if that is what I needed since he can't give me what i need. That is just crazy to me.
We agreed to work on our marriage and be more open about what we needed and were not getting from each other.
At this point, I feel like I am keeping my promise. It has been a little over a week and he hasn't even attempted to be sexual in any way with me. And I have voiced my concerns several times in the past week. At this point - I am afraid that even if he did, I still wouldn't be satisfied. Even though I cheated and it was a one night stand.....there was one hundred times more intimacy than we have had in about 8 years.
My husband and I are overweight and that plays a huge part in our sex problems. I have told him numerous times that i dont care how much he weighs, but once it starts interferring with our marriage.....he should want to do something about it.
Is that wrong of me? I am overweight too....but I can do daily tasks, especially in bed and my life and the people i care about are not being affected by it.
I know he is not having an affair. he just doesn't care about sex anymore? Who does that??????? We are in our forties, in case you were wondering.
Any thoughts? Am I just prolonging the inevitable here? Is there any hope for my marriage.
I do not believe in cheating, but I did about three weeks ago. The thing is...I didn't feel guilty about it at all.
I told my husband last week I wanted a divorce and that I cheated, thinking that would make it easier to leave. His response was.......it was his fault I cheated and he isn't mad. He would even consider an open marriage if that is what I needed since he can't give me what i need. That is just crazy to me.
We agreed to work on our marriage and be more open about what we needed and were not getting from each other.
At this point, I feel like I am keeping my promise. It has been a little over a week and he hasn't even attempted to be sexual in any way with me. And I have voiced my concerns several times in the past week. At this point - I am afraid that even if he did, I still wouldn't be satisfied. Even though I cheated and it was a one night stand.....there was one hundred times more intimacy than we have had in about 8 years.
My husband and I are overweight and that plays a huge part in our sex problems. I have told him numerous times that i dont care how much he weighs, but once it starts interferring with our marriage.....he should want to do something about it.
Is that wrong of me? I am overweight too....but I can do daily tasks, especially in bed and my life and the people i care about are not being affected by it.
I know he is not having an affair. he just doesn't care about sex anymore? Who does that??????? We are in our forties, in case you were wondering.
Any thoughts? Am I just prolonging the inevitable here? Is there any hope for my marriage.
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