Ok so today I've been thinking something which might make people angry but I guess I just have to point it out how I feel etc. I'm 29, female and know a man in his 50's he never married just lives for himself, goes on dates with women and keeps himself fit so he is attractive and all. I would like to be like him when I'm older (even though I'm female) I would like to stay healthy, fit and attractive (I am going to keep fit with weights/cardio all my life), just live for myself and maybe go on a few dates with men. Despite my age I have never really been on dates I've always been a tomboy who cared more about the gym than guys. I can get attracted but I've been more of a loner. Guys my age have never been interested in me so I've just got on with things. I suppose I would like to change a little and make more of an effort.
The problem is from what I've read online (and to some extent in real life) women don't really have a bright future unless they are married lol. Most men of all ages apparently are not interested in older women (past 35/40) as they are attracted to youth. I just feel trapped by this in that my life after 30 will be a waste (I don't want kids and I'm not career focused). So even if I work hard to keep a nice fit body I will get ignored
There's also the stigma.. if I wanted to date younger men I would be thought of as a cougar whereas for men getting a young woman is often seen as an achievement. So I couldnt really have the life of this 50 year old man as wouldn't it be different with me being female? I wouldn't be seen as an attractive charmer like him who does what she wants I would be seen as odd. Just wanted some thoughts on my perception of this am I right or am I not being realistic?
I can't help but think that a 50 year old single man with no kids isn't thought of in the same way a 50 year old single woman with no kids would be. Not saying this is anyone's fault it's just what I've gathered. Just wanted honest opinions. Im aware this thread gives an ideal opportunity for (who have had bad times with women!) to put women down (certainly not my intention) so just try and forget all the gender V gender malarkey and answer in an objective way.
Put the internet to work for you.
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