I've seen people struggle on here with exposure and how to speak to family members. What are some insights people her can prescribe?
I'm guessing in most cases, the families know the BS to be a responsible, upstanding person, but there's always that "you don't know what goes on behind closed doors" hook the WS can use. They will not be immediately inclined to believe these things but at the same time there's the bias towards believing a loved one.
How do you best counteract the claims that you were 'always fighting', 'separation had been talked about', you were 'mean and controlling' and many other untruths that are put out there? Especially when there's the tendency for the WS to hint that the AP is some kind of KISA or otherwise a 'saviour' to their 'marital problems'? Should you get as much intel on what the WS has said, or point to the WS's radical changes in behavior, give details of the affair, what? How do you get across the insanity of what the WS is saying versus the reality of what existed?
I'm guessing in most cases, the families know the BS to be a responsible, upstanding person, but there's always that "you don't know what goes on behind closed doors" hook the WS can use. They will not be immediately inclined to believe these things but at the same time there's the bias towards believing a loved one.
How do you best counteract the claims that you were 'always fighting', 'separation had been talked about', you were 'mean and controlling' and many other untruths that are put out there? Especially when there's the tendency for the WS to hint that the AP is some kind of KISA or otherwise a 'saviour' to their 'marital problems'? Should you get as much intel on what the WS has said, or point to the WS's radical changes in behavior, give details of the affair, what? How do you get across the insanity of what the WS is saying versus the reality of what existed?
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