So, as a follow-up to my thread: anyone taken post divorce to go outside the sexual box, I've been exploring some "adult" meetup websites. Inevitably on these sites folks post naked pics of themselves - mostly body parts as they don't want their faces all over the interweb.
I have been hesitant to post pics of myself for a variety of reasons but probably chief among them is that I am 44 and have the body of a 44 year old. I have stretch marks and saggy boobs from birthing and breast feeding three kids. Chunky thighs. Big butt. That's what I see. So, I have assumed no one would be interested in me posting photos of myself.
But one day I thought, well, if I put on some spanx, I might look good in a dress. So, I posted that photo. (Again, no faces). Much to my surprise, I got some "likes" from a variety of people (men and women) and even more to my surprise, from young men.
This has gotten me braver about the photos I will post / email to folks including one, finally, that was just me, no spanx. No nothing. (no face :)) I cringed as I sent it 'cause I thought "oh god. He's never gonna want to have sex with me now." I got an enthusiastic, "wow" kind of response.
Let me tell you, there is no bigger ego boost than that. And it got me thinking, oh my god. My body image has kept me from having so much sex. How many other women are like me, not putting themselves out there 'cause they worry about how imperfect their bodies are?
I have been hesitant to post pics of myself for a variety of reasons but probably chief among them is that I am 44 and have the body of a 44 year old. I have stretch marks and saggy boobs from birthing and breast feeding three kids. Chunky thighs. Big butt. That's what I see. So, I have assumed no one would be interested in me posting photos of myself.
But one day I thought, well, if I put on some spanx, I might look good in a dress. So, I posted that photo. (Again, no faces). Much to my surprise, I got some "likes" from a variety of people (men and women) and even more to my surprise, from young men.
This has gotten me braver about the photos I will post / email to folks including one, finally, that was just me, no spanx. No nothing. (no face :)) I cringed as I sent it 'cause I thought "oh god. He's never gonna want to have sex with me now." I got an enthusiastic, "wow" kind of response.
Let me tell you, there is no bigger ego boost than that. And it got me thinking, oh my god. My body image has kept me from having so much sex. How many other women are like me, not putting themselves out there 'cause they worry about how imperfect their bodies are?
Put the internet to work for you.
No comments:
Post a Comment