My husband and I have been together for 12yrs. In the last several years the sex has really dwindled. First the economy took a dive, which caused him to loose his good job. This threw him into a depression. It has been a battle ever since. The sex didn't start to drop off right away, but steadily over time. I know that his attitude has something to do with it, but it's been 5yrs. We are now to the point that in the last six months we have attempted sex twice, completing once. He has recently been put on meds for diabetes. It was borderline so the doc said with the meds and diet modification sex should improve. He says he has the drive but no gas.... It doesn't get fully erect and gets soft easily. He says that even masterbation doesn't work. The thing is we are still very young.... I am 32 and him 38. We have decided that kids are not for us, so I imagined free and fun intimacy in our marriage. My question to those who find themselves in sexless marriage s, HOW DO YOU COPE?? I feel as though I live with my best friend. As fun as that might sound, I want my lover back..... That is what I want most in my marriage.... Love and intimacy. I have not cheated and don't intend too, but the longer this goes, the more sympathetic I am to people who do.... I feel so disconnected. Do I stay? Is this what happens in all long term relationships?? He isn't the worst husband, and he loves me so.... I feel like I'm loosing my commitment to this marriage. We have discussed this, even seen a doc ( how we got the diabetes diagnosis), fought numerous times about it so he know how I feel..... Yet nothing. Not even a try. Help!
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