If anyone on here has this similar situation I would love to hear from you. First of all, this is all my fault and accept whatever comes out of this in the end as I deserved it.
I am married to a wonderful woman for 16 yrs. I never once was unfaithful nor has she ever been. She is a christian lady who is very into the church where I am not so much. I did go from time to time but only to church services. She goes to sunday school, was into bible groups, and has many friends in the
church and a very supporting family and many friends outside of church and family.
Here's the problem, I started an affair back in july with a woman who is also married but lives over an hr away from me. Her work brings her to my area a couple of days a week. She has been wanting out of her marriage for a long time. She has 2 boys, one is 17 the other is 13. She has not been happy until I came along. Our meeting was by accident not planned. We started talking and before you knew it we were kissing, hugging, and then it became sex.
I had never in my life done this before. I gave in to temptation. I knew better but still did it. Thought it would just be a time or two and be done with it. Never thought love would be in the picture. We both fell in love with each other after about 2 months seeing one another.
I got caught when my wife seen the OW cell number many many times on our phone bill and she ask me about it. I did not lie and my wife broke down and cried. What did I expect? I broke her trust in me and I was a sorry human being. She had already gone through this once in her life yrs ago with her ex-husband but she never thought I would do this to her. On top of getting caught, I moved out. I moved into a motel room where I am still til this day. My wife has practically begged me to come back home. She said she has forgive me and wants our marriage to work. I should go back but not feeling like I want to, I don't think. The OW has also moved out, but into a trailer. Her husband knows nothing about me, only that he thinks she is seeing someone. They are getting a divorce according to her. She is madly in love with me and has never ask me for money or anything, only my love.
She is much younger than me but I am young for my age, so people say.
I love this woman but I also care alot for my wife. My wife has done nothing to cause my actions. It was an opportunity and I was impressed that this other woman wanted me. NOw, I don't know what to do. I am being squeezed by both. My wife can't take much more. She has lost 33 lbs since summer and does not eat very much at all.
The OW thinks I am playing both of them cause I still communicate with my wife when she texts me. She wants to be No.1 in my life and I clearly understand that. I've been to counselers and so has my wife. Her part was to learn how to cope. Mine was too try and figure out what I want to do.
I can't get over this woman and I am afraid if I go back home that I will not be happy cause of my love for the OW.
If we eventually get together like we have talked about, how will I feel about destroying a very good woman. This is not an envious position that I don't think anyone would want to be in.
I know both women love me deeply. I know I've done bad. I don't need to hear that from anyone. I just would like to hear from others who have been through this and what they have done.
Like I said, my wife and I always got along. That's why it has been so difficult for her cause she didn't see any of this coming.
I simply fell for the OW and now in love with her but don't know what my next move is at this point. I have to do something and soon or I might be completely alone myself.
I am married to a wonderful woman for 16 yrs. I never once was unfaithful nor has she ever been. She is a christian lady who is very into the church where I am not so much. I did go from time to time but only to church services. She goes to sunday school, was into bible groups, and has many friends in the
church and a very supporting family and many friends outside of church and family.
Here's the problem, I started an affair back in july with a woman who is also married but lives over an hr away from me. Her work brings her to my area a couple of days a week. She has been wanting out of her marriage for a long time. She has 2 boys, one is 17 the other is 13. She has not been happy until I came along. Our meeting was by accident not planned. We started talking and before you knew it we were kissing, hugging, and then it became sex.
I had never in my life done this before. I gave in to temptation. I knew better but still did it. Thought it would just be a time or two and be done with it. Never thought love would be in the picture. We both fell in love with each other after about 2 months seeing one another.
I got caught when my wife seen the OW cell number many many times on our phone bill and she ask me about it. I did not lie and my wife broke down and cried. What did I expect? I broke her trust in me and I was a sorry human being. She had already gone through this once in her life yrs ago with her ex-husband but she never thought I would do this to her. On top of getting caught, I moved out. I moved into a motel room where I am still til this day. My wife has practically begged me to come back home. She said she has forgive me and wants our marriage to work. I should go back but not feeling like I want to, I don't think. The OW has also moved out, but into a trailer. Her husband knows nothing about me, only that he thinks she is seeing someone. They are getting a divorce according to her. She is madly in love with me and has never ask me for money or anything, only my love.
She is much younger than me but I am young for my age, so people say.
I love this woman but I also care alot for my wife. My wife has done nothing to cause my actions. It was an opportunity and I was impressed that this other woman wanted me. NOw, I don't know what to do. I am being squeezed by both. My wife can't take much more. She has lost 33 lbs since summer and does not eat very much at all.
The OW thinks I am playing both of them cause I still communicate with my wife when she texts me. She wants to be No.1 in my life and I clearly understand that. I've been to counselers and so has my wife. Her part was to learn how to cope. Mine was too try and figure out what I want to do.
I can't get over this woman and I am afraid if I go back home that I will not be happy cause of my love for the OW.
If we eventually get together like we have talked about, how will I feel about destroying a very good woman. This is not an envious position that I don't think anyone would want to be in.
I know both women love me deeply. I know I've done bad. I don't need to hear that from anyone. I just would like to hear from others who have been through this and what they have done.
Like I said, my wife and I always got along. That's why it has been so difficult for her cause she didn't see any of this coming.
I simply fell for the OW and now in love with her but don't know what my next move is at this point. I have to do something and soon or I might be completely alone myself.
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