I asked my girlfriend of 9 months if she'd like to spend Christmas with me and my family. Im 25, and she's 22. We are still working on our relationship as she is a very anxious girl. Despite being together 9 months, she's still tense with me, though has been relaxing as time goes on.
When asking, I realise that Christmas for some is a very family orientated occasion, and that she may just want to spend it with her family... added to the fact she's still not completely comfortable with me.
Anyway, she didn't respond. The next day (today) she told me she's going to spend it at home, which was fine in my mind. She said that she told Alan (her little brother) she might be away at xmas, and he got very sad, so I think that was her reasoning to have it at home. :confused:
Anyway, I told my mum this and she said ''oh thats okay... though you are her boyfriend...." suggesting that it was odd of her to choose her little brother over being with me at christmas.
This has started making me feel down and anxious. Was this a rejection? Why would she prefer to spend time with him instead of me? The questions are rhetorical as I had them answered before talking ot my mum, but her perspective made me question things. I on the one hand, would do anything to be with her at Christmas. What should I do? Confused and worried :(
When asking, I realise that Christmas for some is a very family orientated occasion, and that she may just want to spend it with her family... added to the fact she's still not completely comfortable with me.
Anyway, she didn't respond. The next day (today) she told me she's going to spend it at home, which was fine in my mind. She said that she told Alan (her little brother) she might be away at xmas, and he got very sad, so I think that was her reasoning to have it at home. :confused:
Anyway, I told my mum this and she said ''oh thats okay... though you are her boyfriend...." suggesting that it was odd of her to choose her little brother over being with me at christmas.
This has started making me feel down and anxious. Was this a rejection? Why would she prefer to spend time with him instead of me? The questions are rhetorical as I had them answered before talking ot my mum, but her perspective made me question things. I on the one hand, would do anything to be with her at Christmas. What should I do? Confused and worried :(
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