Me and my GF are both 24 years old. We have been dating about 4 years, but have been long distance for about 1.5 years. We both graduated college and got jobs. I got a job that I love, provides great benefits, a pension, a career job, etc. She continued working at a job she was at in college, but moving up into sales management. She wants to leave to be a teacher. The problem is my job is where I live and she works where she lives, about 3.5 hrs apart. We are trying to work out how we can move and live together. This is where I need help.
I live in the same city as my entire family and I am close to them. She lives in the same city with her family and is very close to them. She wants me to give up my job and move to her city so she can stay close to her family. I could probably transfer to a different company up by her with the same benefits, but I'd have to go through all the training again.
She refuses to move down to me, even though I'm the only with the stable job and she is looking for a career job. She said that she needs to stay close to her family, because of a recent family loss and the birth of her niece.
I don't want to leave my family and everything I grew up with. She won't really meet in the middle either, finding jobs in between our families. She wants me to move to her city. I'm not 100% opposed to it, but I'm worried I won't have a job I love (and worked hard to get) and I'm leaving all my friends and family behind.
She refuses to move to my state or basically anywhere that is further than 40 minutes from her house. Just by bringing up the idea of her moving down to me upsets her. To her, the only option is I move up there and adjust my life accordingly. I've been at this new job for about 1.5 years and I love it and I worked hard for it. What do you think? What can I say to make this work?
I live in the same city as my entire family and I am close to them. She lives in the same city with her family and is very close to them. She wants me to give up my job and move to her city so she can stay close to her family. I could probably transfer to a different company up by her with the same benefits, but I'd have to go through all the training again.
She refuses to move down to me, even though I'm the only with the stable job and she is looking for a career job. She said that she needs to stay close to her family, because of a recent family loss and the birth of her niece.
I don't want to leave my family and everything I grew up with. She won't really meet in the middle either, finding jobs in between our families. She wants me to move to her city. I'm not 100% opposed to it, but I'm worried I won't have a job I love (and worked hard to get) and I'm leaving all my friends and family behind.
She refuses to move to my state or basically anywhere that is further than 40 minutes from her house. Just by bringing up the idea of her moving down to me upsets her. To her, the only option is I move up there and adjust my life accordingly. I've been at this new job for about 1.5 years and I love it and I worked hard for it. What do you think? What can I say to make this work?
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