I've been dating my guy for just under a year now. We've talked before about moving in together in the state we currently live in and that was the plan before he lost his job. The industry he works in will cause him to relocate and at first i was really nervous and wouldn't even talk about it. Then I decided that I would go with him no matter where and no matter what and we talked about moving together and the future and all the possibilities of our new life together. Now, the possibility of him leaving is within a week or so, and he isn't sure anymore. He said he loves me, but he is not 100% on moving together but hasnt made up his mind either way. Said that his experiences in the past are clouding his decision and he's reluctant b/c of a relationship that fell apart years ago b/c of moving around so much. Says that he doesnt want to ruin my life if it doesnt work, doesnt want to take me away from my family and friends, my job...I told him i cant stay he re and live my life just for the people in my life he mentioned, that i want a life with him. Then he said that he's scared I'll leave him or cheat on him...which i have never given him any reason not to trust me. I ask what is going to make him decide and when he will know and he just keeps saying he doesnt know, that he hopes it will just come to him soon.
I've been nothing but good to him, I'm a very kind and loving person and am honestly a great catch. The thing is, that I have avoided being involved with anyone for almost 5 years prior to meeting him to avoid caring or getting hurt. But then i met him and, as cheesy and cliche as it may be, I fell head over heels in love with him and now feel like I wont be able to stand losing him. I know he loves me, there is no doubt in my mind about that..I'm just so confused what this is.. some of my friends tell me to walk away, others tell me to be patient and let him figure things out and he will come around. I'm just so scared that he wont, and in a week or so I'm going to be finding ways to pick myself up off of the floor from the shock.
I just want other opinions, based solely on the facts, of whether or not I'm being naive or just plain blind.
I've been nothing but good to him, I'm a very kind and loving person and am honestly a great catch. The thing is, that I have avoided being involved with anyone for almost 5 years prior to meeting him to avoid caring or getting hurt. But then i met him and, as cheesy and cliche as it may be, I fell head over heels in love with him and now feel like I wont be able to stand losing him. I know he loves me, there is no doubt in my mind about that..I'm just so confused what this is.. some of my friends tell me to walk away, others tell me to be patient and let him figure things out and he will come around. I'm just so scared that he wont, and in a week or so I'm going to be finding ways to pick myself up off of the floor from the shock.
I just want other opinions, based solely on the facts, of whether or not I'm being naive or just plain blind.
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