Hi, most stories seem like mine but I thought I would share mine & get some feedback. (sorry bout the length)
My wife & I had been together nearly 9 years & married for about half that time. We have 2 kids together 5 & 3 & I have a 10 yr old girl from a past relationship who I have 50% of the time.
We were going along fine but like every couple had some minor issues, but my wife was still planning for the future with me like wanting a holiday to Fiji, a eternity ring & doing some things around the house etc.
Then out of the blue on a trip away she was cold towards me & I asked what's wrong & eventually I got out of her that she said the spark had gone for me. We chatted & said we would work on some things.
2 weeks later she left me claiming I was controlling, that she didn't want to look after my daughter anymore & she loved me but wasn't in love with me & surely I could have seen that we were not right etc. She moved out & eventually got her own unit.
I am part of a family business & at work one of our new employees had become quite friendly with my wife who also worked with us part time, when she left I asked if he had anything to do with leaving & of course she said no.
For the next few weeks I tried everything ,begging, pleading & every now & then got a date but I had to force her into it, funny thing was that on the dates she would really enjoy herself but the next day she would be cold towards me again.
I was still getting the i'm confused & not sure what I want etc answers & all my friends thought I must have been sleeping around or abusing her for her to turn so cold against me all of a sudden.
Well I decided to take my kids to the movies one night & when we walked into the theatre my daughter told me it was the exact same theatre that mummy & the man from work & his daughter took us to see a movie last week, well I wanted to flip but at the same time I felt better as there was a reason why this whole mess had happened.
After doing some home work I looked into our home ph records as I had no access to her mobile ph & cause this fella worked for me I had access to his mobile number & I found that she had been calling him while we were still living together & one call was at 7.40am in the morn just after I had left for work in the week leading up to her leaving.
When I confronted him he denied everything the slime bag even when I was showing him my ph records calling his number, my wife came clean & basically admitted to a e.a for up to 3 months (1 while together & 2 until my daughter busted them). Obviously I think it would have got physical. It's funny cause when you look back & piece things together it all adds up
She told me she would cut off contact & try & work on things with us. Well she did sort of try & we went away for a weekend & it was all going well but as the weekend went on she got cold towards me again (I thing she in the fog) & we basically had a big fight & ended things.
She is a manipulator as she only tried to work things out with me once she was caught out re movies, & ph calls.
We did go to marriage counciling but I had to drag her there & the whole time she was the victim & I had to change etc
I love her & my kids so much, I am part of a successful business , provided well & am a good father. I am not prince charming but as I stated she was planning future things with me so when she says she was planning on leaving me anyway I don't believe her.
She said to me she was trying but it was never good enough, & I said that's right cause one minute she was happy & the next wanted nothing to do with me.
I this week started the 180 (is it to late ? ) & I suppose it's to help me move forward cause I have dragged my family down with me & also keen to see what response it brings from her.
Lastly I removed the guy from work & informed his wife which caused some grief at his end but the sleaze deserved it
My wife & I had been together nearly 9 years & married for about half that time. We have 2 kids together 5 & 3 & I have a 10 yr old girl from a past relationship who I have 50% of the time.
We were going along fine but like every couple had some minor issues, but my wife was still planning for the future with me like wanting a holiday to Fiji, a eternity ring & doing some things around the house etc.
Then out of the blue on a trip away she was cold towards me & I asked what's wrong & eventually I got out of her that she said the spark had gone for me. We chatted & said we would work on some things.
2 weeks later she left me claiming I was controlling, that she didn't want to look after my daughter anymore & she loved me but wasn't in love with me & surely I could have seen that we were not right etc. She moved out & eventually got her own unit.
I am part of a family business & at work one of our new employees had become quite friendly with my wife who also worked with us part time, when she left I asked if he had anything to do with leaving & of course she said no.
For the next few weeks I tried everything ,begging, pleading & every now & then got a date but I had to force her into it, funny thing was that on the dates she would really enjoy herself but the next day she would be cold towards me again.
I was still getting the i'm confused & not sure what I want etc answers & all my friends thought I must have been sleeping around or abusing her for her to turn so cold against me all of a sudden.
Well I decided to take my kids to the movies one night & when we walked into the theatre my daughter told me it was the exact same theatre that mummy & the man from work & his daughter took us to see a movie last week, well I wanted to flip but at the same time I felt better as there was a reason why this whole mess had happened.
After doing some home work I looked into our home ph records as I had no access to her mobile ph & cause this fella worked for me I had access to his mobile number & I found that she had been calling him while we were still living together & one call was at 7.40am in the morn just after I had left for work in the week leading up to her leaving.
When I confronted him he denied everything the slime bag even when I was showing him my ph records calling his number, my wife came clean & basically admitted to a e.a for up to 3 months (1 while together & 2 until my daughter busted them). Obviously I think it would have got physical. It's funny cause when you look back & piece things together it all adds up
She told me she would cut off contact & try & work on things with us. Well she did sort of try & we went away for a weekend & it was all going well but as the weekend went on she got cold towards me again (I thing she in the fog) & we basically had a big fight & ended things.
She is a manipulator as she only tried to work things out with me once she was caught out re movies, & ph calls.
We did go to marriage counciling but I had to drag her there & the whole time she was the victim & I had to change etc
I love her & my kids so much, I am part of a successful business , provided well & am a good father. I am not prince charming but as I stated she was planning future things with me so when she says she was planning on leaving me anyway I don't believe her.
She said to me she was trying but it was never good enough, & I said that's right cause one minute she was happy & the next wanted nothing to do with me.
I this week started the 180 (is it to late ? ) & I suppose it's to help me move forward cause I have dragged my family down with me & also keen to see what response it brings from her.
Lastly I removed the guy from work & informed his wife which caused some grief at his end but the sleaze deserved it
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