I went this whole cheater roller coaster with my exH for years. I finally left him and thought I found someone so much better. I knew my current dh as a teenager, and honestly he was just a jewel then. Then we lost contact and have been back together 3 years. I'm early 40's, so there was 20+ years I did not know anything about him.
He's not the same man I knew back then. On top of this current revelation, I am suspicious of cheating. I'll get into that later, but anyway. He talked non stop about combat etc....It is a huge part of his personality. Quite by total accident, I found out from his mom that NONE OF IT IS TRUE. Oh yeah, he was a marine, she said, for a couple of months and was medically discharged. He didn't go overseas or serve any combat or any of that. Certainly didn't "watch his friends" die and all that. He had everyone fooled...his exwife, his children, his best friends....I contacted his exwife and best friend, ad they were floored, shocked. These are all people who have had contact with him throughout his life. He told me his mom was lying because she doesn't like me. I then spent several months going back and forth wondering if maybe he was telling the truth.
Recently I contacted a site which checks about phony soldiers. Bless them, they are angels. They immediately checked into it for no charge and contacted me with information and sent me copies of the papers they obtained. Sure enough, 3 months in CA as a marine, no injuries, combat, etc. then discharged.
I am so...I don't know how to describe this feeling. The eerie thing is the details of his stories. I mean it is bizarre, the details. I've spent some time over there, and much of it seemed to add up. But there were red flags, in hindsight. He has to be taking the script from someone else's life or from a movie or something. I actually tried to google movies with the same names, stories as what he tells people.
I have not told him I got this verification from these people. I am walking around in a freaking daze. Meanwhile, I still have to listen to these apparently fake war stories about all the graphic ways he's killed people, all the children he's seen blown up, the friend who died in his arms while he tried to stop the blood pouring out of a bullet wound to the chest, on and on. And all his bull comments like "well people just don't know what it's like to be a marine", like everyone else is such losers.
He is going to blow it soon. A young guy at his new job is a marine, and they are constantly exchanging stories. I went out with all of them, and dh was going on and to this guy about being shot and losing part of his hearing from being around IED (he will fake being half deaf in bars, telling every freaking bar waitress he can't hear her because he lost his hearing in the marines!!!) oh that's another thing, I can't tell you how many times he loudly "accidentally" proclaims something about being a marine around women. You should see how quick some idiot females respond to that.
Anyway....I need to calm my mind. I feel like I'm literally in the twilight zone.
He's not the same man I knew back then. On top of this current revelation, I am suspicious of cheating. I'll get into that later, but anyway. He talked non stop about combat etc....It is a huge part of his personality. Quite by total accident, I found out from his mom that NONE OF IT IS TRUE. Oh yeah, he was a marine, she said, for a couple of months and was medically discharged. He didn't go overseas or serve any combat or any of that. Certainly didn't "watch his friends" die and all that. He had everyone fooled...his exwife, his children, his best friends....I contacted his exwife and best friend, ad they were floored, shocked. These are all people who have had contact with him throughout his life. He told me his mom was lying because she doesn't like me. I then spent several months going back and forth wondering if maybe he was telling the truth.
Recently I contacted a site which checks about phony soldiers. Bless them, they are angels. They immediately checked into it for no charge and contacted me with information and sent me copies of the papers they obtained. Sure enough, 3 months in CA as a marine, no injuries, combat, etc. then discharged.
I am so...I don't know how to describe this feeling. The eerie thing is the details of his stories. I mean it is bizarre, the details. I've spent some time over there, and much of it seemed to add up. But there were red flags, in hindsight. He has to be taking the script from someone else's life or from a movie or something. I actually tried to google movies with the same names, stories as what he tells people.
I have not told him I got this verification from these people. I am walking around in a freaking daze. Meanwhile, I still have to listen to these apparently fake war stories about all the graphic ways he's killed people, all the children he's seen blown up, the friend who died in his arms while he tried to stop the blood pouring out of a bullet wound to the chest, on and on. And all his bull comments like "well people just don't know what it's like to be a marine", like everyone else is such losers.
He is going to blow it soon. A young guy at his new job is a marine, and they are constantly exchanging stories. I went out with all of them, and dh was going on and to this guy about being shot and losing part of his hearing from being around IED (he will fake being half deaf in bars, telling every freaking bar waitress he can't hear her because he lost his hearing in the marines!!!) oh that's another thing, I can't tell you how many times he loudly "accidentally" proclaims something about being a marine around women. You should see how quick some idiot females respond to that.
Anyway....I need to calm my mind. I feel like I'm literally in the twilight zone.
Put the internet to work for you.
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