Where to start. This is very difficult for me right now. I am coming on here for advice or past experiences and what to expect. Me and my wife have been married for 20 years. We have had a very nice marriage where we when on vacations every year and enjoyed going out often to dinner or shows. Our sex life was great and we did it very often. We enjoyed our company and had fun times. Over the past 5 - 6 years we have gone through some very difficult financial situations where we almost lost our house 2 times. During this time money was very tough and at times we were both stressed out and there was arguments. We do have 2 children who are 17 and 15. We are currently in bankruptcy. She has been unhappy in our marriage for a few years and I would assume due to the fact that we were having a difficult time making ends meet. I lost some of my income so that made the situation harder. I believe this was the leading cause and perhaps blaming me. its hard o n her when she sees others including family friends doing things all the time and we are on a tight budget. She has been telling me that she loves me but is not in love with me anymore. I asked her why and she has no answer. She says it just happens. I have always given her affection, hugs and kisses since we were married except for the past year because she would get her mad. I have always treated her with respect, never hit her or cheated on her. It just kills me why.
She just told me last week that it will be the best for us to get separated. I love my wife more than anything in life and I have given everything of me to her including my heart and soul. She never wants to talk about any of the problems which keep building up inside her. I will be moving out on 11/1 to my own apartment which is killing me. The other problem is that in order for me to move out is not to pay my mortgage and which we will lose our home later in the future. She is aware of that and is willing to accept the situation and force her to get a apartment of her own and the kids when we lose our home.
I don't know what to do. Even her mother said that she is making a mistake and we should work things out. I tried that 3 years ago and she said no but she tells me now that maybe we should have. She says we are past working on our marriage but later she says that we need to separate in order to reevaluate or life and she said that getting a divorce is not what she is looking for. She told me she is not looking for someone or wants to be with someone. She is unhappy and wants to be alone.
My friends say to move on and enjoy life at the moment and maybe being away from each other might us back together again down road but you cant sit around waiting for that to happen. There is always a possibility but it is going to kill me not seeing or talking to her everyday unless getting the kids for the weekend or discussing the kids with school.
I don't know what to do. My friends say is to give her space and she might miss you. they say that I should not call her all the time because this might push her farther away. Just the thought of not being with her or seeing her is making me depressed.
Any advice or suggestions would be greatly appreciated.
She just told me last week that it will be the best for us to get separated. I love my wife more than anything in life and I have given everything of me to her including my heart and soul. She never wants to talk about any of the problems which keep building up inside her. I will be moving out on 11/1 to my own apartment which is killing me. The other problem is that in order for me to move out is not to pay my mortgage and which we will lose our home later in the future. She is aware of that and is willing to accept the situation and force her to get a apartment of her own and the kids when we lose our home.
I don't know what to do. Even her mother said that she is making a mistake and we should work things out. I tried that 3 years ago and she said no but she tells me now that maybe we should have. She says we are past working on our marriage but later she says that we need to separate in order to reevaluate or life and she said that getting a divorce is not what she is looking for. She told me she is not looking for someone or wants to be with someone. She is unhappy and wants to be alone.
My friends say to move on and enjoy life at the moment and maybe being away from each other might us back together again down road but you cant sit around waiting for that to happen. There is always a possibility but it is going to kill me not seeing or talking to her everyday unless getting the kids for the weekend or discussing the kids with school.
I don't know what to do. My friends say is to give her space and she might miss you. they say that I should not call her all the time because this might push her farther away. Just the thought of not being with her or seeing her is making me depressed.
Any advice or suggestions would be greatly appreciated.
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