These things are not big things, IMO. Just stuff I've been thinking about for the past week or so.
1st: Why would a husband who was really never big on PDAs, (except for hand holding), start planting kisses on his wife in front of other people? This has been going on for the past year or so.
Example: Last weekend, I left with my D18 to go to her game. She needed to get there early for warm up. My husband was going to come later when the game started. So when he gets there, he gives me a big kiss on the lips in front of everyone. I'm NOT complaining! I think it's nice and I really, really like it but why the change?
2nd: This one might be a bit convoluted. I'll try to be brief.
Husband coaches S7 team. He's a very friendly and personable kind of guy. Makes friends easily and always tries to get to know the parents. First practice a dad comes up to him, "Are you related to ***?" Yes, it's my BIL, husband's brother. (BTW, this dad has the same occupation as my husband and BIL but different departments.) Husband talks to BIL, BIL says, "Oh yeah, I went to high school with him and his wife. He got fired from his dept because of such and such. It was even on the news. Oh and he cheated on his wife and she's divorcing him." So this couple is from our hometown, (30 miles away) and we all went to the same HS and they're a train wreck.
The mom didn't come to first month of practices or games which started in August. At some point she started showing up but the dad has not been seen since she started showing up. A few weeks ago my husband asks her where her husband has been and she informs him that she has, "applied for a RO against the dad for abuse against her and the kids and that she's really scared that the dad is going to show up at the games and cause problems." Didn't happen and hasn't happened.
So now last Saturday night, my husband starts telling me all this stuff that the wife told him earlier in the day prior to the game. I'm just listening to the information. I guess she did get the RO against the dad. Which is good information for my husband to have but then it just gets into more specific stuff. Like how much in trouble this guy is in, how he cheated on her numerous times, other actions showing how he's totally gone off the deep end, he drinks too much, blah, blah. I mean there was only a 15 minute window where I wasn't around before the game started and she managed to get out ALL this information to my husband while he's trying to warm up the team for the game. I just thought it was really weird. I guess I'm a private person and I wouldn't disclose this type of stuff.
When he was done, I said, "Why is she telling you all this?" Him, "I don't know." Me, "Don't you think it's kind of weird?" Him, shrug. The only reason I can think of is that she wants to get her side of the story "out there" since she knows the firefighting community is a small one and firefighters are worse than old women when it comes to gossip.
Okay, so am I reading the CWI forum too much? We've never had a infidelity issue in our marriage. I really have no reason to get freaked out because of any past problems. We are both good with our boundaries. He gets a little flirty and his jokes get a bit raunchy when he drinks but that's it. I'm just finding this odd.
ETA: and no I don't think my husband is the culprit here. The mom bothers me though.
1st: Why would a husband who was really never big on PDAs, (except for hand holding), start planting kisses on his wife in front of other people? This has been going on for the past year or so.
Example: Last weekend, I left with my D18 to go to her game. She needed to get there early for warm up. My husband was going to come later when the game started. So when he gets there, he gives me a big kiss on the lips in front of everyone. I'm NOT complaining! I think it's nice and I really, really like it but why the change?
2nd: This one might be a bit convoluted. I'll try to be brief.
Husband coaches S7 team. He's a very friendly and personable kind of guy. Makes friends easily and always tries to get to know the parents. First practice a dad comes up to him, "Are you related to ***?" Yes, it's my BIL, husband's brother. (BTW, this dad has the same occupation as my husband and BIL but different departments.) Husband talks to BIL, BIL says, "Oh yeah, I went to high school with him and his wife. He got fired from his dept because of such and such. It was even on the news. Oh and he cheated on his wife and she's divorcing him." So this couple is from our hometown, (30 miles away) and we all went to the same HS and they're a train wreck.
The mom didn't come to first month of practices or games which started in August. At some point she started showing up but the dad has not been seen since she started showing up. A few weeks ago my husband asks her where her husband has been and she informs him that she has, "applied for a RO against the dad for abuse against her and the kids and that she's really scared that the dad is going to show up at the games and cause problems." Didn't happen and hasn't happened.
So now last Saturday night, my husband starts telling me all this stuff that the wife told him earlier in the day prior to the game. I'm just listening to the information. I guess she did get the RO against the dad. Which is good information for my husband to have but then it just gets into more specific stuff. Like how much in trouble this guy is in, how he cheated on her numerous times, other actions showing how he's totally gone off the deep end, he drinks too much, blah, blah. I mean there was only a 15 minute window where I wasn't around before the game started and she managed to get out ALL this information to my husband while he's trying to warm up the team for the game. I just thought it was really weird. I guess I'm a private person and I wouldn't disclose this type of stuff.
When he was done, I said, "Why is she telling you all this?" Him, "I don't know." Me, "Don't you think it's kind of weird?" Him, shrug. The only reason I can think of is that she wants to get her side of the story "out there" since she knows the firefighting community is a small one and firefighters are worse than old women when it comes to gossip.
Okay, so am I reading the CWI forum too much? We've never had a infidelity issue in our marriage. I really have no reason to get freaked out because of any past problems. We are both good with our boundaries. He gets a little flirty and his jokes get a bit raunchy when he drinks but that's it. I'm just finding this odd.
ETA: and no I don't think my husband is the culprit here. The mom bothers me though.
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