I have posted in a previous thread about an issue with my partner but wanted to write a new thread about a different issue.
Background: I live with my girlfriend and her 13 year old son. We're both in our late 30s and have been together for about six years, living together now for about four years.
My girlfriend has always been a bit sulky when I have to go to work early or when I come home late. Note: for her, early is before 0800 and late is after 1930! That's not really so early or late to me! At the beginning of the relationship I found it sweet that she loved me so much that she was sad I had to go somewhere knowing she'd miss me. For the last couple years though it's become more of a problem than a sweet relationship aspect. Lately it's becoming a serious annoyance as I feel like I don't have space to breathe in my life between keeping my work commitments and keeping her happy.
I work in an office and though I have flexible hours, I have to put in 40 hours per week which equates to 8 hours per day. We've had some redundancies lately so it's critical I do a good job, stay out of trouble, and do my hours.
My girlfriend doesn't like it if I come home late so I try to get in work early on a morning (leave the house at around 0740) and return home at around 1830 on an evening. The commute to work is long so I lose around 2 to 2.5 hours per day on travelling. That means, if I leave at 0735, I will get into work around 0845-0850. Then I need to work until around 1730 (taking 30 mins for lunch) and get home for around 1830 (or 1845-1900 if I stop by the shop to get food for making dinner!).
Lately though I have not been able to do my hours because of some appointments (e.g. viewing apartments in our apartment search). As a consequence it's been important that I leave "on time" so that I try to do my hours. She doesn't like it though. Normally I give her a kiss on a morning when I leave, but one morning she told me doesn't want a kiss and I should "just leave and go to work" in an unkind way. Recently she commented that my "job is more important than my family". That's a tough one. The family is more important to me otherwise I'd be working 10 hour days like my colleagues. But my job is important because without it we would face financial misery.
Does anyone else have this situation where they or there partner have problems with the other one going to work? Or am I alone with a crazy person here?
Background: I live with my girlfriend and her 13 year old son. We're both in our late 30s and have been together for about six years, living together now for about four years.
My girlfriend has always been a bit sulky when I have to go to work early or when I come home late. Note: for her, early is before 0800 and late is after 1930! That's not really so early or late to me! At the beginning of the relationship I found it sweet that she loved me so much that she was sad I had to go somewhere knowing she'd miss me. For the last couple years though it's become more of a problem than a sweet relationship aspect. Lately it's becoming a serious annoyance as I feel like I don't have space to breathe in my life between keeping my work commitments and keeping her happy.
I work in an office and though I have flexible hours, I have to put in 40 hours per week which equates to 8 hours per day. We've had some redundancies lately so it's critical I do a good job, stay out of trouble, and do my hours.
My girlfriend doesn't like it if I come home late so I try to get in work early on a morning (leave the house at around 0740) and return home at around 1830 on an evening. The commute to work is long so I lose around 2 to 2.5 hours per day on travelling. That means, if I leave at 0735, I will get into work around 0845-0850. Then I need to work until around 1730 (taking 30 mins for lunch) and get home for around 1830 (or 1845-1900 if I stop by the shop to get food for making dinner!).
Lately though I have not been able to do my hours because of some appointments (e.g. viewing apartments in our apartment search). As a consequence it's been important that I leave "on time" so that I try to do my hours. She doesn't like it though. Normally I give her a kiss on a morning when I leave, but one morning she told me doesn't want a kiss and I should "just leave and go to work" in an unkind way. Recently she commented that my "job is more important than my family". That's a tough one. The family is more important to me otherwise I'd be working 10 hour days like my colleagues. But my job is important because without it we would face financial misery.
Does anyone else have this situation where they or there partner have problems with the other one going to work? Or am I alone with a crazy person here?
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