I honestly dont even know how to start,
I have been married for almost a year and my husband never wants to have sex. He is always tired or feels sick. He is only 28, really tired? I had a baby 4 months ago and am working full time, I also have a teen son and I am 30 yrs old, so I am as tired as they come. Sex has become a fond memory for me, my husband is just never in the mood. I've gotten used to the fact the he will not give me oral, after I asked for it in every way it can be asked. I've been shy about it, I've been funny, I've been demanding, I've even asked him while crying and nothing will get him to do it (he used to do it before when we first started dating and he'd do it all the time) He cheated on me a few years ago, when we moved in after we agreed on working things out is when he stopped doing oral on me. Its been almost 2 years that it hasn't happened and Im ok with it because at least I was getting sex. Well, sex is no longer there.
My hubs is great at everything else, he excels in all parts of being a husband but the only thing I really want from him he cant do. His answer is, "relax babe, Im not going any where. we are married forever and we can have sex any time." What about now? Why cant he have sex with me now? This is only making my self esteem get even worse.
I find my husband irresistible, I watch him when he's doing his own thing, when he's eating and I swear I drool over him.
I dont want sex daily, but we go so long without it, that I myself feel like Im being desperate. I hate this feeling, Im a woman in my 30s, a newlywed if you must and Im already going through this?
At the moment I am giving him the cold shoulder because last night we had a fall out. After I tried to initiate it he's response was "why would you want to ruin the night" talk about an ego burst. I love this man like I have never loved before, I honestly truly believe he is my soul mate and will meet in each and every life and I do not want to cheat on him. God knows I dont. I do not desire other men, I dont please myself because I know I'd feel mediocre afterward, sorta a 'pity please', unenjoyable (I have done it). I dont want to divorce over sex? Is that even an reason for a divorce?
I have come to you guys with hopes that maybe I am doing something wrong and the outsiders see something Im missing.
I've reached the end of options.
I have been married for almost a year and my husband never wants to have sex. He is always tired or feels sick. He is only 28, really tired? I had a baby 4 months ago and am working full time, I also have a teen son and I am 30 yrs old, so I am as tired as they come. Sex has become a fond memory for me, my husband is just never in the mood. I've gotten used to the fact the he will not give me oral, after I asked for it in every way it can be asked. I've been shy about it, I've been funny, I've been demanding, I've even asked him while crying and nothing will get him to do it (he used to do it before when we first started dating and he'd do it all the time) He cheated on me a few years ago, when we moved in after we agreed on working things out is when he stopped doing oral on me. Its been almost 2 years that it hasn't happened and Im ok with it because at least I was getting sex. Well, sex is no longer there.
My hubs is great at everything else, he excels in all parts of being a husband but the only thing I really want from him he cant do. His answer is, "relax babe, Im not going any where. we are married forever and we can have sex any time." What about now? Why cant he have sex with me now? This is only making my self esteem get even worse.
I find my husband irresistible, I watch him when he's doing his own thing, when he's eating and I swear I drool over him.
I dont want sex daily, but we go so long without it, that I myself feel like Im being desperate. I hate this feeling, Im a woman in my 30s, a newlywed if you must and Im already going through this?
At the moment I am giving him the cold shoulder because last night we had a fall out. After I tried to initiate it he's response was "why would you want to ruin the night" talk about an ego burst. I love this man like I have never loved before, I honestly truly believe he is my soul mate and will meet in each and every life and I do not want to cheat on him. God knows I dont. I do not desire other men, I dont please myself because I know I'd feel mediocre afterward, sorta a 'pity please', unenjoyable (I have done it). I dont want to divorce over sex? Is that even an reason for a divorce?
I have come to you guys with hopes that maybe I am doing something wrong and the outsiders see something Im missing.
I've reached the end of options.
Put the internet to work for you.
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