So some couples talk about they have the friendship but not the passion. In my husband and I's case, it's the opposite, we have the passion (or used to anyway) but have never had the friendship. Now I will write this in two parts that will probably require two different responses...
1. Assuming I was normal to begin with, if a relationship started very physical in the beginning, how do you mold this physical based relationship into a friendship? What can be done to fix this?
2. Now, knowing I'm not normal, I was born with a deficiency in my capability of emotionally connecting with people. I've always had a hard time my whole life becoming close to people, and building friendships. So when it came to dating or meeting up with guys, it was easier to connect with them physically, because connecting with them emotionally would take years.
And maybe a 3rd part if it's helpful:
3. I noticed my husband has a hard time connecting to females. He doesn't have female friends, other than through Facebook or online. But in person, he doesn't have any female friends, and just doesn't connect with women very well in general.
So we have me who has difficulty emotionally connecting with anyone, and my husband who has difficulty connecting with women....doesn't make for a good equation to build a friendship...
Of course we do some things together, like watch some TV (which is very passive though), go watch a movie, go eat out, go to Disney World. But I just feel we don't have this emotional connection like I do with my best friends. I don't know where to start. :scratchhead:
1. Assuming I was normal to begin with, if a relationship started very physical in the beginning, how do you mold this physical based relationship into a friendship? What can be done to fix this?
2. Now, knowing I'm not normal, I was born with a deficiency in my capability of emotionally connecting with people. I've always had a hard time my whole life becoming close to people, and building friendships. So when it came to dating or meeting up with guys, it was easier to connect with them physically, because connecting with them emotionally would take years.
And maybe a 3rd part if it's helpful:
3. I noticed my husband has a hard time connecting to females. He doesn't have female friends, other than through Facebook or online. But in person, he doesn't have any female friends, and just doesn't connect with women very well in general.
So we have me who has difficulty emotionally connecting with anyone, and my husband who has difficulty connecting with women....doesn't make for a good equation to build a friendship...
Of course we do some things together, like watch some TV (which is very passive though), go watch a movie, go eat out, go to Disney World. But I just feel we don't have this emotional connection like I do with my best friends. I don't know where to start. :scratchhead:
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