I have a depressed wife on my hands. She's on meds, and not freaking out anymore. I've changed my behaviors over the past 2 years, and things have turned around. She still sleeps 11 hours a day, and I do about 75% of everything, including making 70% of the money. Watching kids, doing chores, paying bills, cleaning up, etc... We had gone to counseling a while ago, and were able to rectify some issues, but the no sex thing is touchy and it's killing me.
We go for weeks/months without it, and I'm always the one initiating. I have to basically give her the pary-line that it's good for the marriage and if you want a healthy relationship we should do it regularly. I try very hard at making life enjoyable. We go out for dinner, I buy her stylish dresses (Marc Jacobs, Klein, Lucky Brand), Jewelry, and designer bags. We've been having a lot of fun. But, still there's no sex and no initiation.
When we do manage to do it, she's disinterested. And, every time I bring it up, I become more resentful. I'm having panic attacks over the thought of bringing it up again. I'm extremely tired of this routine, and am tired of going to the counselor. I think it might be the meds, but I can't totally be sure. She doesn't tell the psych doc anything, and that doesn't help either.
I'm at the point where I want to stop doing what I'm doing, and just have an affair. I don't want to break up, but I don't think I deserve this anymore. I'm tired of having her go to bed at 8pm with no intimacy.
We go for weeks/months without it, and I'm always the one initiating. I have to basically give her the pary-line that it's good for the marriage and if you want a healthy relationship we should do it regularly. I try very hard at making life enjoyable. We go out for dinner, I buy her stylish dresses (Marc Jacobs, Klein, Lucky Brand), Jewelry, and designer bags. We've been having a lot of fun. But, still there's no sex and no initiation.
When we do manage to do it, she's disinterested. And, every time I bring it up, I become more resentful. I'm having panic attacks over the thought of bringing it up again. I'm extremely tired of this routine, and am tired of going to the counselor. I think it might be the meds, but I can't totally be sure. She doesn't tell the psych doc anything, and that doesn't help either.
I'm at the point where I want to stop doing what I'm doing, and just have an affair. I don't want to break up, but I don't think I deserve this anymore. I'm tired of having her go to bed at 8pm with no intimacy.
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