My wife is/was my best friend. The one I always wanted to be with but thought I missed out on.
To bypass the long story, she told me she was depressed when we married...I knew she was during the first year...but now she says it was while we were dating, too. That she was in a "fog" and didn't realize it at the time. She is sorry...but now doesn't feel attracted to me or that she loves me like a wife should a husband.
She told me this about 5 months ago...things have been up and down since then but mostly down.
There are things she blames me for...working too much...I texted an old GF a few times...nothing inappropriate. Told her I looked at things online that I shouldn't have at times, mainly because of the rejection I felt at times and therefore justified. I wasn't proud of it, but it did happen. Not even a lot, but it did happen. She said, "I knew something was off, that is what it was" but I told her, "No, I have been losing a lot of money since we've been married...I don't regret it, I love my family but I'm often in the office trying to get my work done and try to plug some of the financial holes."
Anyway, she shows signs of depression. She knows that. We are now separated at her request. We have 3 kids, 2 from her previous marriage and our son.
My question is, this "fog"...how legitimate is that? I can see it happening but we are also both adults and chose to get married.
I just want my wife back but I don't really know the one I'm married to now.
I'd stick with her in a heartbeat, just don't know how realistic it is.
We start marriage counseling tomorrow. I'm hoping that helps...at least help me see what the real potential is in this.
To bypass the long story, she told me she was depressed when we married...I knew she was during the first year...but now she says it was while we were dating, too. That she was in a "fog" and didn't realize it at the time. She is sorry...but now doesn't feel attracted to me or that she loves me like a wife should a husband.
She told me this about 5 months ago...things have been up and down since then but mostly down.
There are things she blames me for...working too much...I texted an old GF a few times...nothing inappropriate. Told her I looked at things online that I shouldn't have at times, mainly because of the rejection I felt at times and therefore justified. I wasn't proud of it, but it did happen. Not even a lot, but it did happen. She said, "I knew something was off, that is what it was" but I told her, "No, I have been losing a lot of money since we've been married...I don't regret it, I love my family but I'm often in the office trying to get my work done and try to plug some of the financial holes."
Anyway, she shows signs of depression. She knows that. We are now separated at her request. We have 3 kids, 2 from her previous marriage and our son.
My question is, this "fog"...how legitimate is that? I can see it happening but we are also both adults and chose to get married.
I just want my wife back but I don't really know the one I'm married to now.
I'd stick with her in a heartbeat, just don't know how realistic it is.
We start marriage counseling tomorrow. I'm hoping that helps...at least help me see what the real potential is in this.
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