Wife and i separated 6 weeks ago, 'am staying at my brothers and she's with our son in our apartment.
I used to go to the apartment at first when she wasn't there to pick up some of my stuff, she didn't mind. Then i went there a couple of times she was there with my son, me not knowing and she said to better tell her if i needed to drop by because of my son and he might get confused that i get.
But now, she has made a couple of comments regarding me stopping there (when she wasn't there). And she has asked me have you been at the apartment? i KNEW WHERE THIS WAS GOING , so i said both times yeah, once to pickup something andf the other to drop a gas tank she had asked me.
I said "do i need to tell you everytime i have to drop by the apartment?", She said, "i would appreciate it, thanks".
So we got into a Little argument, me saying, fine, if you feel this is important i will do it, but this is MY apartment too and if i need to pick up something i will go, i'll tell you later.
She said, that i went there this morning like if i was hiding it from her, that "comunication is important" and that i't would be better if she knew i'd been there. Then talking about invading space and what not.
To make a long story short i put my foot down and said " if i need to go i will go, and i'd tell youm later" it may seem i was hiding stuff from you (past behaviour) but that wasn't my intention.
I told her, that's why we need to talk (we had agreed on tonight) to set ground rules for this separation, which we never did.
Now, is she right?, do i need to tell her when i go to the apartment, even if she's not there? or 'am i right to be pissed?
I used to go to the apartment at first when she wasn't there to pick up some of my stuff, she didn't mind. Then i went there a couple of times she was there with my son, me not knowing and she said to better tell her if i needed to drop by because of my son and he might get confused that i get.
But now, she has made a couple of comments regarding me stopping there (when she wasn't there). And she has asked me have you been at the apartment? i KNEW WHERE THIS WAS GOING , so i said both times yeah, once to pickup something andf the other to drop a gas tank she had asked me.
I said "do i need to tell you everytime i have to drop by the apartment?", She said, "i would appreciate it, thanks".
So we got into a Little argument, me saying, fine, if you feel this is important i will do it, but this is MY apartment too and if i need to pick up something i will go, i'll tell you later.
She said, that i went there this morning like if i was hiding it from her, that "comunication is important" and that i't would be better if she knew i'd been there. Then talking about invading space and what not.
To make a long story short i put my foot down and said " if i need to go i will go, and i'd tell youm later" it may seem i was hiding stuff from you (past behaviour) but that wasn't my intention.
I told her, that's why we need to talk (we had agreed on tonight) to set ground rules for this separation, which we never did.
Now, is she right?, do i need to tell her when i go to the apartment, even if she's not there? or 'am i right to be pissed?
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